Iam 14 years old and about 5 weeks pregnant how can i tell my mom and when i should??

Answer 1

The best thing to do is to tell your mom. I would think about how you want to tell her first. It's best to be alone with her to tell her. That way you can talk about it without interuption. Also, don't get mad if she is upset. Moms are like that, we want what's best for our children and this is a curve ball she isn't expecting.

There will be hard times ahead for you, but you need to make decisions and your mother can help with those. You need to think about what you want to do with this baby- adoption, keeping it- either choice is hard and will have hard consequences with it. You need her support to help you through your pregnancy, labor and delivery and the years to follow. It's a hard decision to make at 14, but you are the one who had sex, and you are the one who has to deal with the outcome.

Having a baby at any age isn't easy, but at 14 it may be even more difficult. Girls your age have been having babies for centuries, so it isn't only you.

You need to get informed on all your options. Talk to different people who have been through the same thing- planned parenthood or your school should be able to help you find a support group for teen moms. They can help with your decision also.

I would tell her before she starts to suspect things on her own. It's bad enough to have to deal with this as a parent, but to not be told about it would be worse.

Answer 2

Tell her asap and tell her somewhere where you are comfy, maybe have someone else present but not the father, she might just kill him. But maybe an aunt or an uncle or another trusted adult who you told before hand this way they can help calm her down. And don't listen to all the rude comments on here either. Where I live, and this is sad to say girls get pregnant at this age all the time, and they are fine. My best friend had her first at 14 and now has two more and she's the best mom. I have two and I'm only 23. And my first one was when I was 18. If you're mature enough to have sex you're mature enough to have a baby. And you're not a whore either, that person doesn't know the whole story. Good luck with the baby, and if you decide to keep it and raise it good luck to you. Just remember it might be hard but you'll get though we all do. Good luck.

Answer 3

Definitely tell her right away. Maybe later in the evening when you two are relaxing or whatever, but she needs to know. For the simple fact that she's your mom and your only 14 there could be complications with the pregnancy since your so young and your body hasn't completely developed yet. She needs to take you to the doctor and you will really need her support. Because going through a pregnancy all alone is no fun especially with your hormones all out of whack. Good Luck sweetie I hope all goes well.

Answer 4

You should tell your mom as soon as possible. Im sure you are very afraid,however you need support right now, and your mom may be the only one who can provide it. Try having someone there when you tell your mom, if you are afraid! You can also speak to a counselor or local planned parenthood for tips on how to let your mom know.I was in the same situation! You may find that your mother reacts a lot different from what you expected. I was thirteen years old. I know you are going through a lot of confusing thoughts right now. Keep in mind that babies are a lot of work more so emotionally than physically and financially. If you chose to keep this baby it will be rough. You are so young and have beautiful things in life to look forward to. I love my daughter but I missed out on many opportunities because my life is now devoted to her. So please keep this in mind!

Answer 5

Definitely dont wait until it becomes obvious... By 8 weeks you should see an OBGYN... you could always wait to tell her until after your first appointment... you definitely need to tell her soon... dont wait much after 8 weeks... youre going to NEED and want the support. I dont believe in abortion either... adoption is always an option if you dont think you are ready to raise a child... private adoptions are great... and you would get a substantial amount of money that may help you with your college education or something like that...But know-- having a baby is the most amazing thing in the world, there is no greater love you will ever feel... You have a lot of decision making to do... not just for yourself but for your baby. God bless!!

Answer 6

ok ignore what that girl KATH said i was pregnant at 15 (birthcontrol didnt work) i just flat out told my mom well i showe her the test but yeah u need to go to the doctor that is the most important thing! My step dad was so pissed but a week later hes making fun of how he couldnt go down the hall the same time as me cuz i was so big! we had fun and hopefully u will to! take advice frome someone whos been there at about the same age good luck hun and if u wanna chat my name is [e-mail] or [e-mail] i hope u do decide to chat!

Answer 7

I know you are scared but now is the time to tell your mom it will not go away . The longer you wait the harder it will get . Don't listen to those negative jerks! If you are really scared just call her from a friends house and tell her gives her time to get over the shock . You two need to talk and she will probably be very up-set for a few minutes but she will calm down and help you. Good luck!

Answer 8

I WAS IN UR PREDICAMENT IN 2005.I wasnt as young as u but i was 18 turning 19 when i got pregnant.I had finished school and everything but i was still living w/ my mom.If the guy is willing 2 b there 4 u and ur baby both of u go to ur mom and his mom and tell them 2 getha.If you want to keep ur baby dont let ur parents,family,friends or man talk u n2 getting rid of it.A baby is a blessing so think of it that way.Me and my fiancee was scared to tell also but once we did after a couple of weeks our parents got over it.Know we have a beautiful 5 mnth old that every one loves including every 1 that was upset w/ us and telling me to abort it.Best wishes 2 u and ur child and good luck.And many blessings!Know me and my fiancee and our baby lives together happily.Its gonna be hard but you can pull through it dont give up keep ur head up and still lokk sexy while ur pregnant,i did even though i wore big shirts they still were cute shirts and they werent maternity clothes i just bought regular clothes in bigger sizes:-)

Answer 9

TELL HER AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! what i would do is take a cold shower first. this'll suppress the felling a little bit. but before you do so, ask if you can talk with her a little later. don't specify what, just make it apparent you want to talk. when your ready, just take a few deep breaths, sit on the couch and call her in. she'll be ready for something, but she doesn't know what. say it will be a bit of a shock and ask her to try and stay calm. then just come right out and tell her.

again:

1.)ask if you can talk later

2.) cold shower (10-12 minutes) NOT bath.

3.) sit on couch deeeeeeep breeeeeathiiiiiing

4.) call her in

5.) tell her it will be a shock & try to be calm.

6.) I know it's dreaded, but... tell her.





if you do this right, she should remain calm, and you'll be able to tell her as easily as possible for your situation.

Do NOT, i repeat, DO NOT daudle. if you wait to long, you WON'T BE ABLE TO GET AN ABORTION.


good luck kiddo,

Stargazer

Answer 10

When I thought that I was pregnant, I just came right out and told my mom. She acted a little upset at first, but then she got over it. Don't be afraid. The earlier you tell her, the earlier you can get help that you are definitely going to need.