why should we forgive and forget?

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Answer 1

We CAN forgive, but forgetting is difficult at best.
Reason? Whatever the infraction, it is a part of the brain's linear record.

However that said, with enough time gone by, a person could eventually minimally recall the event. By this, I mean other events in life take the place of dwelling on that one single event.

It should be noted that true forgiveness is much more important the forgetting the event. Forgiveness is good for the heart and soul. To hang on to the negative, has proven to be detrimental to both mental and physical health.

That's why it is important to move on, and not dwell on it.

Answer 2

We should at least try to always forgive each other no matter what as we would want to be forgiven for our mistakes and errors and hurts that we cause others. We don't always forget however but over time we can start to heal and get past the pain of the hurt that has been caused to us. We are not held accountable for what happens to us but we are for how we react or respond. God and the Bible says that if we dont forgive others he wont even hear our prayers and will not forgive us if we choose never to forgive others. My pastor always said Bitterness is the poison we drink while we wait for the other person to die. Harsh but true!

Answer 3

We should forgive and forget because somethings are not worth fighting over. As for affairs of the heart you can forgive, but never truly forget. There is a trust issue that will have to build and can be achieved, but there will always be something eating at the back of your mind and you will have to give the benefit of the doubt in any matter.

Answer 4

Forgiving and Forgetting are NOT the one and the same exactly....

Forgiving, in my opinion, is NOT agreeing with whatever someone else was being.
It's more about allowing the other person the opportunity for GROWTH...... it's reminding yourself, that being human is conditional.

Forgiving someone releases the stress of reliving the emotion over and over again.

Forgetting?
That's more about REMEMBERING that EACH DAY is a NEW day.

By the way, you can FORGIVE & FORGET and also deicde not to remain in the same position relative to the other person's illusions.

Allowing someone to "abuse" you is "abusing" them..... how will they understand what they are doing is "wrong" if you keep allowing them to "hurt" you?

Forgiving can mean Letting Go in more ways than one:

Letting go of what you thought was important to you.
Letting go of what you imagined that person was supposed to be.
Letting go of the situation's outcome....
Letting go of a need to be "in control"....
Letting go of the idea that you "knew" how life was supposed to turn out....

Answer 5

Because when you do not forgive all your are doing is hurting your self not the person. You get all bitter. Loose your peace, cant sleep. And the other person is having a great time and they are not even thinking about it. So yes is better to forgive. Forget is not possible. Unless you go in to a coma.!!

Answer 6

Sometimes you just can forgive or forget because when somebody has done something to hurt you why should you forgive them.

Answer 7

Cuz if you forgive and forget its better than holding a grudge for so long. It will just keep coming back in your face.

Answer 8

Sometimes it is easier to just forgive and then the forget may come later

Answer 9

I would hope that people would give me the same break that I give them daily...forgive AND forget. Without the forgetting, there is no real forgiveness, is there?

Answer 10

If you stay mad at someone, then they still have power over you. You are holding onto the anger and not allowing yourself to heal your wonds. Just because you forgive someone, you don't have to put yourself in the position to be hurt by them again.