can anyone help me help my freind?!!?!?

Question

her brother just committed suicide and she is super depressed....The other night she was even talking about committing suicide herself!! I am scared of losing her along with her brother ((who was my bf)) I would appreciate any and all advice ♥

Answer 1

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My Sincere Condolences to You Both !!!

I think you will Both benefit by considering the following on-line articles! You may want to read them privately, but I would suggest also to read them together. You might also want to invite someone to visit you to, explain the Real hope of the Bible more in depth.

The first listing is a beautiful brochure that is also available both in print, & audio. You can ask at any Kingdom Hall of Jehovah's Witnesses for copies (audo recordings may have to be ordered). You might also want to invite someone to visit, to explain the Real hope of the Bible more in depth ...

When Someone You Love Dies :
... "It Can't Be True!"
... Is It Normal to Feel This Way?
... How Can I Live With My Grief?
... How Can Others Help?
... A Sure Hope For the Dead http://www.watchtower.org/library/we/index.htm

LIFE IS WORTH LIVING :
... A Worldwide Problem
... Why People Give Up on Life
... You Can Find Help
... How Can You Help?
... Someone Who Seems Suicidal
... "Will God Forgive Me for Feeling This Way?
... Have You Lost a Loved One to Suicide?
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/10/22/article_01.htm

What Hope for Today's Youths? :
... The Tragedy of Youthful Deaths
... Suicide - A Scourge of Young People
... When Hope & Love Vanish & Return
... Motivations for Suicide
... Some Indicators of Suicide
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1998/9/8/article_01.htm

Where You CAN Find REAL Hope?
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2004/4/22/article_04.htm

Spirituality and Your Well-Being
...... How You Can Satisfy Your Spiritual Needs
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2004/2/1/article_01.htm

Let me know if I can be of any more help.
If either of you would like more information, you can find a lot -- or ask for help -- right on the Web site, or by writing or visiting a Kingdom Hall.

Sincerely,
"Make sure of all things; hold fast to what is fine."
(1Th 5:1-28, NWT)

Answer 2

People who have relatives who commit suicide are more likely to commit suicide themselves. If you think she is in danger, talk to her parents. They can get her some help. She needs professional help right now that you can't really give her. Good luck

Answer 3

Sure, but keep this thing in mind. Help is a risky word. It means your weakness. Why dont you talk to yourself first ? Say to yourself - you are stronger and you can help others. At this stage when your friend needs you, how can you afford to be weak and ask others to help. By what I understand, you have a reason to grief, but you have more stronger reason to be strong- that is you dont want to loose your friend too ( you have already lost your bf ). So get up. talk to yourself and then your friend. Remember, people feel lonely because there's no one to talk. Talk to her and cheer her up for the things she has- it can be anything. By knowing what she has she will not grieve on what she does not have and will liven up ! Try it. But be live while talking !!!

Answer 4

tell her that attempting sucide is the sign which indicates that she is not strong enough to bear the problems that we have to face and due to her brother's death the family will be going through lot of trauma and crisis and if she too commits suicide what will go through her parents they may not be able to bear the
trauma of thier children's deathand may fall sick or go through terible sickness.she should comfort her parents and help her parents go through this terrible time .first ,she herself should build the courage and deal this problem with maturity.commiting sucide is not the way out of this problem nor will this decrease their sadness for the death of her brother.

Answer 5

hmm...i lost my brother the same way when i was 13. its really difficult being in that situation and nothing makes you feel better really. everything in your family changes.....everybody stops smiling....nobody really talks anymore....
and the kind of affection that she may require at the moment i'm not sure if her friends can give her that .....her family is goin through a hard time too , so even they wont be really helping her situation.

she needs a friend now more than ever.......thats the best you can do, be there for her. spend as much time as possible with her. and talk to her ab her brother unless she wants to talk ab him. try being optimistic and smiling when you are with her.

god girl, you are asking this question when you yourself lost your bf? i'm truly sorry ab your loss. but i guess you are much stronger than his sister.

well, you both need to understand that it was his decision to take his life.....nobody else is responsible for that. what we do with our lives , how we react to our situations is always our choice.

there is more to life than we understand. the point is not to take life too personally.

you know, spirituality can help you both really. if you are intrested. well, thats the only thing i see that can actually help your friend at the moment and maybe even you. i'm sure you are hurt too. try taking her to some spiritual gurus, of eastern descent. they are the best to handle a situation like this. their insight on life and how to deal with it is truly phenomenal . I know this bcoz i grew up in the east. spirituality will surely give you both a different insight ab life. its better than going to the counsellors which are not of much help anyway. well, i do not know how receptive you would be towards my idea....but nevertheless, i think you should give it a try.

but if you do decide to go to some spiritual gurus, make sure you do not go to some religious fanatics.

if you need some guidance on whom to go to, i can guide you.

you could also find out yourself.

if you want to know how i dealt with this situation you can mail me. its too personal for me to put that in here.

sorrow is a part of life......we shouldnt make it our life.

i wish both of you get over the loss . life is too precious to be wasted. dont give up on yourselves. dont give up on life.

Answer 6

Just be with her as much as you can, tell her that you are there for and care for her. Let her know that you loved her brother, and he would want you to help her get through this very tough time. My prayers are with you, and with your friend.

Answer 7

i don't know if i can help but try and give her some other inmiging in her head like fun stuff to do or other things that can make her happy and maybe get the suicide off her mind try it you never know what might happen.........

Answer 8

You both need need to console eachother and get your minds off thinking about it. You really need to tell her parents so she can get professional help and fast. If I was you i would get off the computer and call her parents and explain whats going on. She may be hurt you told her parents and may get mad at you , in the long run she will be glad you did. Please tell her parents.
my condolences to you and her family.

Answer 9

DO YOU KNOW WHAT "ACTIVE LISTENING" IS? IT MEANS BEING THERE FOR HER AND REALLY JUST LISTENING AND PROVIDING COMPANY AND SUPPORT JUST BY YOUR PRESENCE AND CARING. YOU DON'T HAVE TO FIND MAGIC SENTENCES OR IDEAS OR THE RIGHT WORDS. JUST BE THERE FOR HER. SIT DOWN WITH HER. CALM HER HEART. JUST BY BEING THERE. IF SHE EVENTUALLY TELLS YOU STUFF, LISTEN TO HER WITH AN OPEN HEART. PEOPLE DO NOT LISTEN TO OUR WORDS WHEN THEY ARE SO UPSET. THEY LOOK INTO OUR EYES AND FEEL OUR HEARTS. IT IS WHAT WE ARE FEELING FOR THEIR PAIN THAT THEY PICK UP ON AND IT HELPS TO HEAL THEM. YOU DON'T HAVE TO SAY ANYTHING. JUST BE THERE WITH HER. SHE WILL FEEL THAT CARING AND IT WILL HELP HER MORE THAN ALL THESE WORDS HERE OR ANYTTHING YOU COULD EVER PUT INTO WORDS. TRUST ME. WHAT SHE NEEDS RIGHT NOW IS - YOUR COMPANY. BEST TO YOU ON THIS, - G.

Answer 10

jst try 2 spend more time with her.. n console as mch as u can.. n try 2 divert her thoughts 2 somethin betr..!!!..
go out ..4 walk with her!!!.. n make her play some sport