I was in a wonderful 8 year relationship until 18 months ago when my ex finished with me completely out of the blue (no 3rd parties were involved). I was devasted when we split up but managed to sort myself out with the help of my fantastic friends :)
Myself & ex stayed in casual contact (email, telephone & sms) for a while, and recently decided to have a catch up weekend together (as platonic friends). However I feel like I am beginning to wish that I was back with ex - and although we are really good friends, ex can be still very tactile with me and likes the occasional cuddle, which leaves me feeling very confused about my feelings. Now I am really confused as to what to do - shall I just ignore these feelings and get on with my life, or shall I try finding out what is going on with the ex???
2006-06-10 03:35:46 · 27 answers · asked by extremely_confused 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Extra info - reason for break up was that ex felt that we had 'drifted apart' - it was almost that both of us were too scared to take that step to commit to the relationship (e.g. get married or even move in together) - we had our own lives, jobs and circle of friends. I guess ex just had the guts to do something about it eventually!
2006-06-10 04:09:20 · update #1
You really don't know why he left? Was he unhappy? Were you unhappy? What happened? I think you need to know if you don't already.If you know the reason and its legit then maybe there is something that can be worked on.Are there children involved? All I know is if you had something really great and something happened that one of you decided it wasn't going to work anymore then I think you should look for the root cause.A true love is hard to find and if there is something left and you can bare the pain of working through it then go for it and try.If you can't bare it and there isn't alot left except the attraction then there is someone else out there waiting for you. Sometimes people need time to reevaluate their lives and sometimes they get back on track and other times they make a change.I don't know where your ex is that's for you to try and figure out if its worth it to you.
2006-06-10 03:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by El Mexicano 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget how much he hurt you, you dropped you after 8 years at the drop of a hat. You deserve better...think about it, he could hurt you all over again. Do you really want that?
I think - ignore the feelings and get on with your life. I think we ALL have those "what if" feelings with our ex's. Maybe that's MORE of what you're feeling than actually considering being back with him.
Good luck honey, Marilyn
2006-06-10 10:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure no 3rd parties were involved? Kinda odd he would dump you "out of the blue" like that. Sounds like he had another "option" and no that option isn't there anymore so he's trying to come back to you.
If I were you, knowing the pain he caused the first time around? Oh HEEEELL NO!
Stop communicating with him and move on with your life.
2006-06-10 10:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Shep 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was a good 8 year run, and now it's over. Really. Think about it. You're trying to get back with the guy WHO DUMPED YOU FOR NO APPARENT REASON. It's like driving a car that could blow up without warning. No one should drive that car.
2006-06-10 10:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by trixwagen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never said what caused the split you know. You only said what didn't.
If there was not a third party involved, there was something else going on, and you never said it was.
Can't help you on this one, you did not provide the necessary information to do it.
Tell us what happened, we might be able to give good advice. At this point, everybody answering is just guessing.
Sorry about that.
2006-06-10 10:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by diogenese19348 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing the WRONG thing by leading you on. Ask him out or if he likes you, and go from there. If he says yes, then great.....if he says no, dump him & move on with your life. If you continue to be "friends" with him, you are just gonna get hurt more...
Good Luck & Have a Great Day! :-)
2006-06-10 11:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Weasel♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she just wants to remain friends. Then just remain friends. That's Great. She should not be doing this to you. Maybe she does it to see if she still has you wrapped around her finger. If it's over get on with your life. Don't let her do these things to you. If you go out, go to a public place and don';t put yourself in a position for her to use you.
2006-06-10 10:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by sam04m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself first for once. Do you really want someone who either can't make up his mind, or who's manipulating you according to his mood? No matter how hard it is sometime it's better to move on and find someone else who will not confuse you, and will communicate his intentions clearly. Best of luck.- P.
2006-06-10 10:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never known two people to go from together to apart and still hang out unless they really wanted to be together agian. I think you should ask him if you guys should give it another try and if not just cut your ties and move on. Best wishes
2006-06-10 10:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons he left probably still remain - so you need to find out WHY/WHAT.
Once you know what the problem is, you can decide if things can be changed, or if it's time for you to move on.
2006-06-10 10:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by Froggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋