what can i do to keep them away?

Question

im 13 years old and boys keep asking me to do sexual things with them.I dont know what i should do.Its getting annoying.Should i just do what they ask so they'll leave me alone????

Answer 1

Dont do anything with them. Especially if you are not in a commited relationship. Plus you're only 13. Most of the boys are probolly 12-14 and thinking nasty and dont actrully know what they are taalking about either. They sre just immature. If you do do somthing, other people might think you are a slut or a whore, even if you did whatever only one time. Then other boys will think you are easy to get. It is not goinig to hurt you if you dont do these sexual tings, but it might hurt you if you do. You might not want to talk to your mom about this, but if you guys are close you should. You could tell your dad and I'm sure he will do somthing to the boys. You can talk to a youth counselor at a church, most churches are understanding. Or you can tell a teacher or administrator that the boys are asking you to do these nasty things. Also you can tell the boys NO. In a confident voice, dont souyd unsure about it or they will keep asking. I hope I helped you a little bit, and I hope your situation gets better.

Answer 2

No, it's not a good idea to do what they ask, they'll just ask for more.

2 easy ways to keep them from bugging you and stop trouble before it starts:

1) Go out in groups - and don't leave the group! For instance, if you're going to a movie, be sure it's in a group of 4 or 5 people and stick with the group. Girls go to the bathroom together and don't leave one girl alone.

2)If they start asking or trying to force you to do things, don't be afraid to tell them "STOP!" assertively. Men don't get hints, so things like subtly or jokingly telling them no can just encourage them. Look him in the eye, tell him "Look, I really am not comfortable with this. Stop." and if he continues, GET UP AND LEAVE THE SITUATION. DO NOT STICK AROUND.



I was an "early bloomer" in appearance, and was assaulted at 14 years old by a school friend. It was a horrible experience that has really had an impact on the rest of my life, including now my marriage, my relationship with my parents, my self-confidence, everything. So don't even mess around with it. You sound like a smart, confident girl, so just don't mess with it. Get busy with a sports activity or something like that, and I'll bet you don't have time to have boys bugging you - "Hey, I've got to get to practice" becomes the phrase of choice to get away from an annoying boy.

Answer 3

Their telling you to do WHAT? They can tell you to meet them outside the cinema. They can tell you your eyes are gorgeous. But no one has the right to tell us to have sex. No one. However much we like them. Nor should they nag, pester or plead, either.

And you're right. At 13, they shouldn't even be asking for it nicely.

Respect yourself. Tell them to change their record or find someone else to mess with. If they respects you back, the'll listen. If not, breathe a sigh of relief: good riddance.

You can have sex

As long as you're:

- over 16 (so we're not breaking the law); (and your not!)

- not being pressured (or pressurising anyone else);

- safe (condoms and contraception all sorted)

Then it is Up To Us.

Tell them if they don't leave you alone they'll have alot more to think about than sex! Like the fact that their balls will be black and blueish!
Or kick them in the balls and say if your a example of manhood HELP ME! I THINK I NEED TO BECOME A LESBIAN!

Answer 4

i teach at a middle school, i hear my students your age talking about sex and ect all the time. many of them think if you do not have incourse you are not having sex that is not true! Oral sex is sex you can catch STDs from oral sex. at the school i work at i know its a game for the guys to see how many girls they can "get". Ask yourself do you just wanna be another "peice" in the boys game? Or do you want to have self respect and stand up for what up believe in? When the boys approach you and ask you to do those things make an up something to leave the area or ect.. good luck

Answer 5

It is tough to be a teenager today - but I don't think you should ever do anything you are uncomfortable with just to get someone to leave you alone. Make it clear that you are not going to do these things with them, get some friends to "back you up" if you can. Good luck - I know it isn't easy to grow up in today's world!

Answer 6

No you should not, you have the right to be happy in your life and that does not mean giving in to the bullies. Tell your parents or school counselor and get some help, this is sexual harassment and you don't need to put up with it....be strong tell the NO!

Answer 7

they definetly wont leave u alone if u do it. have some self respect for yourself and stand up for whuts rite, dont let boys do those things to you, i wish i knew what i kno now 3 months ago cuz now im 15 years old and pregnant. thinking that if i had sex wit boys it would make them like me better or something. so please dont try to please other boys cuz u need to build up ur self esteem so you can juss say no to whut boyz say. trust me, its not a good feelin to be called a "hoe", seriously. boys are horny at this age maybe more than ever so of corse their gunna keep askin u to make them feel good and stuff prob cuz they no eventually that you'll say yes, but u gotta remember self respect. good luck to you. really.

Answer 8

It is very simple, never do ANYTHING just because you are asked. The most important thing is making the correct choice. Do what YOU want to do based on all possible outcomes. Be your own boss. Captain your ship. Be aware. ETC...

Answer 9

Your hands work, right? Slap them across the face if they ask for sex. If that doesn't dissuade them, a knee in the groin certainly should.

Remember, violence is the answer to everything when you're in prison.

Answer 10

Imediatly tell your parents and teacher or principal to get them suspended. If this gets even more out of hand like if they threaten you, go to the police station. That'll keep them away. Trust me, this works ;);)!