Unprotected sex....Need help!!!.....?

Question

A week ago I went to a party and got drunk....(stupid I know)....anyway....I met this guy there and he took me to his room and we had sex.....well....I dont think he pulled out....and we didnt use any protection.....

I was on the pill....but I stopped takin them because my prescription ran out a couple days before.....

I have a feeling I'm pregnant....but i dont wna confide in my mom or anybody else except my friends....I dont know what to do if I was.....i'm highly considering a abortion if I am.....but i still dont want my family to know.....

Seriously I need help......do anybody have any advice????

Answer 1

OK, first the lecture and then some practical advice.

"Pulling out" is not protection against pregnancy OR disease. There can be male sexual fluids (containing sperm and/or infective bodies) present even if the guy doesn't get erect. When you are "fooling around" at least one of you should have underpants on AND IN PLACE or else you should have a condom or some other barrier.

Don't tell your friends. A secret isn't a secret anymore once you tell someone. Today's friend could be your enemy in 5 years -- or 5 weeks!

Don't delay -- the longer you wait, the more difficulties you are going to have, both legal and physical. Contact your local chapter of Planned Parenthood TODAY and set up an appointment. They will help you arrange to get tests for pregnancy and infections.

Let's hope all your tests are negative. But if you DO get bad news, Planned Parenthood can help you decide what to do next. If you want to bring a pregnancy to term, PP can help you with that. And if you want to end the pregnancy, PP can help you with that too. Here is a link to PP http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

A lot of people are going to be making cheap appeals to your emotions, cruel stuff like "Oh honey, don't murder your baby!" It is easy for these people to say this; it is not their life and future which will be permanently changed by your pregnancy and motherhood. These people have an agenda, an agenda that doesn't much care about what is best for YOU!

Very few women who have terminated a pregnancy ever feel regret or guilt about it. On the contrary, nearly all feel that they have made a very responsible decision and are glad they made it. Don't let these people bully you. Do what is best for YOU.

And don't beat up on yourself TOO much for fooling around with this guy. Sex is very seductive; you are not the first person who "got started and couldn't stop" and you won't be the last.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you, honey.

Answer 2

I have a question for you; is your cycle even late? If you just got off the pill (finished the pack) that mean you just had a cycle and you would would not be due for another 28 days(if you have a 28 day cycle). mid cycle which is usually 14/18 days after you had your last cycle is your best chance to get pregnant. If i was you i would not stress myself over being pregnant just because you feel you are. Go get an EPT home test to easie your mind. Also you can go to the health clinic in your area and get birth controll pills 6 months at a time, ( they give them to you for free) or you can get the shot. Its all free and you dont need your mom to go with you. Make an appointment they will test you for STD and ect. Please be more careful!!! As far as an abortion i feel that if you are woman enough to have sex you are woman enough to to pay the price. They have many options that you need to explore before you have an abortion. I am not totally against abortion but i think you should talk to your parents before you have an abortion if you are pregnant or an older sister or someone like that. Good Luck

Answer 3

The only thing you can do is confide in your mom. She is the only one that will be able to fully help you. Not strangers giving advice. Silly advice sometimes for that matter. I know you think your mom will be very mad , and Im sure she will but she will get over it. I have 3 children and I would hope if this ever happened to them, they would come tell me. I would be upset, but Definitley would help them and if a grandbaby came into the picture, then so be it. Babies are blessings to me, and I would never let one of my children have an abortion. If they did behind my back and I found out I would be devastated. Please dont consider abortion. Its the worst choice you will ever make. Imagine 10 years from now when you are thinking about that child you aborted and could have been. Just Please talk to your mom. It will be the best decision. Abortion is not birth control. Its taking a life.

Answer 4

Ok....I really don't know why everyone gets hyped up about being pregnant when they haven't even missed they're period yet. I think you might just be freaking out because you had unprotected sex. A majority of teens who have unprotected sex think a week later "oh my god i think i am pregnant" when really it's just the thought that overcomes you and quite a few times in the end it ends up to be nothing. First of all, if you missed your period go to the store and get a test. You can get them for $1 at the dollar store, and yes, they work. If you end up being pregnant, I would sit your mom down, and explain to her that you made a terrible choice, well 2 terrible choices, one is to get drunk underage, and the other is to have unprotected sex. And then explain to her what your options are and what you think you should do. Then go to a doctor. I personally would not get an abortion, I am just giving advice and not telling you what to do, but i think that you should carry the baby, and if you choose give it up for adoption, this is your child, and it derserves the best life possible. See what your mom thinks, you may not agree with her but just see what she has to say. I hope everything works out well for you.

Answer 5

You poor thing!
Are you pregnant?
•Once your body starts producing eggs (ovulating) you can become pregnant if you have sex with a boy or if sperm gets anywhere near your vagina.

• This can happen even before you start your periods. Girls younger than 10 have got pregnant.


•Up to five days after sex you can use emergency contraception to stop yourself getting pregnant.

Signs of pregnancy
Missing a period is the most obvious sign but there are others, like sickness, needing to wee more often, tender breasts, unusual vaginal discharge, tiredness and a metallic taste in your mouth.

What to do if you think you might be
•Get tested right away. It’s best to have a pregnancy test done by your GP or one of the centres listed below, because it’s free, confidential (they won’t tell anyone) and expert staff are on hand to give you advice.

•Or you could buy a home-testing kit. These are usually very accurate and available from chemists and large supermarkets for about £7. Read all the instructions and follow them carefully.

•If the result is positive see your GP.

What if I’m pregnant?
•Tell someone. If you can possibly tell your parents or carers, then do, you might be surprised at how understanding they are even if they’re shocked at first.

•Always tell your GP who’ll keep it totally confidential. You can also speak to staff at any of the centres listed below.

•The sooner you tell someone, the more options you’ll have for your next move. And the easier it will feel to think them through. You won’t need to rush to make the right decision.

•If you are pregnant then the options you need to consider are: having an abortion, adoption, fostering, or becoming a mother. But get expert advice before making a decision.

Further info
•likeitis.org.uk/ or call 0845 300 80 90 (Mon-Fri 7am-10pm, Sat & Sun 8am-6pm) to find out how make an appointment at a Marie Stopes centre near you

•brook.org.uk/ or call 0800 0185 023 (free) to find out how to make an appointment at one of their advice centres
•fpa.org.uk/helpnow/

•Childline are always there to talk about this or any other issue in total confidence 24 hours a day on 0800 1111

Answer 6

oh girl, you need to start loving yourself some more. If you think through this rationally, as far as the pregnancy is concerned, you would not be ovulating. you should take a pregnancy test (ept makes a very early one) , but you could be not having your period because of stress.

I am adopted and met my birth mother 3 years ago (i'm 32). It has filled a lot of holes in my life, and I know that abortion would have been easier at the time, but unlike that other guys response, it might haunt you forever. it is a bell that can never be unrung.

let me know if there is anything else-before you go to a planned parenthood, try a crisis pregnancy..many have 4-d ultrasounds and other ways of helping you truly heal.

most importantly...don't put yourself in such a position where you don't love yourself enough that you even have to worry. God loves you NO MATTER WHAT!!! I am living proof.

Answer 7

talk to your friends at least, it will help you feel better.
does your mom know you are on the pill, if she does i think you can talk to her and it'll be okay. also if you stopped taking them just a few days before you are probably not pregnant. it can take up to a month after you get off the pill for your fertility to return.
you should go to the doc though to make sure you don't have an sti.
if you need an abortion and live in the US in most states you don't need your parents permission for abortion if you are over 16. go to a planned parenthood in your area or similar center if the planned parenthood is too far away, but be careful because some of the other clinics are pro-life centers disguised as abortion clinics and they will try to scare you with fake info.

Answer 8

I know from experience how you feel. The best advice I can give you is go see your doctor ASAP. Make sure you tested for STD's. Most of all don't have an abortion. I know that you are scared, but just think of all your options before you make the biggest mistake of your life. Aboriton is not the only answer. Their are to many couples out their that can not have children, you may be the answer to someone's prayer. Plese think about this.
P.S.
Get back on a birth control method, and watch who and where you choose to spend your time with.

God Bless

Answer 9

im 15 and pregnant, and when ppl say abortion i think murder, and then i ask myself, how can they live knowing that they killed their own child, it seriously something that u can never forget and will never be forgotten. you'll never have ur first child. u said u dont want ur family to know, and thats exactly how i felt because u cant imagine whut theylll think, especially me becaus ei was always daddy's little girl etc. but u think theres never a rite time, but truly there is never a rite time to tell ur parents whut ur situation is. but eventually u gotta do it , easier said then done. please dont get an abortion tho: DO YOU WANT MORNING SICKNESS OR THE SICKNESS OF MOURNING.

give ur child a chance to live, and if u do in 9 months when u look at that childs eyes, say to yourself how caould i ever thought of taking u out of my life. u have to handle ur responsibilty. its hard but teenage moms and all moms do it every day. and by gettin an abortion ur punkin out, ur basically quitting the job u were hired for. my sdvice to you take a test to find out for sure and if ur not, stop havin sex. if u are, love your child and dont get an abortion cuz youll always wonder "what if". talk to me if u need help or u wanna swap stories or somethin. i wish u the best of luck and hope u arent pregnant.

Answer 10

if it was just a week ago you wouldnt be thinking you were pregnant yet. talk to your mom and see a doctor and get tested in two weeks . then get back on the pill and stop drinking. 1 your destroying your own body 2 your too young 3 you should be studying not partying an eductaion will get you alot farther in this world than a beer bottle and a baby stroller.