he's sweet and loyal
the thing is he's a failure in his studies
only focusses on things that distracts his attention from his studies.
i want to be his cheerleader but should i continue to support him on things like this?
does his failure in studies means he's going to be a bad husband and father?
or is the real problem lies in me..
am i selfish to even think about this?
2006-06-10 01:50:47 · 11 answers · asked by vanilla2415 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You R A Loving person to think about things like that ahead of time, but for now, let him do his own thing. If you support him with both issues, then you will both be happy.. If he refuses to take part in his studies more, then keep trying, but don't smother him with all the issues that he does need to work on. No one is perfect, and you don't want the perfect person for you. You need your differences, and during marriage and parent hood you two can work with the problems that you have with your relationship. But for the moment just enjoy yourselves, and be the happiest couple you can be! :)
2006-06-10 02:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
OMG!!! A young girl that actually thinks!!!
Congratulations Sweetie!! With mature thinking like that you will do very well in life! I raised two daughters to believe that it is their choices in life that determine their eventual happiness and success!
Think about what you will get if you stick with this guy or any other guy that has the same lack of initiative. A constant battle of "why cant we afford (fill in the blank)" The blank can be anything from food to diapers. The problem is, he will be the first one to say to you " Well it never bothered you before!"
Check some of these questions out, from young women that resent having to support a lazy boyfriend/husband. If mooching off your family and friends bothers you, dump this bum and let the welfare system support him.
2006-06-10 08:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First LOOK at EVERYTHING when it comes to being a mate.
I think that the fact that he doesn't concentrate on his studies, may point out a personality flaw... but then it may not...
If he continues to put you FIRST... and make you #1 then maybe the studies thing isn't such a big deal.
No... I don't think you're selfish at all.
2006-06-10 08:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't study to be a good wife and mother do u?? so no it has nothing to do with his level in studying. u said cheerleader for him? is he an athlete or something? well that means he is good at doing other things and there's an equal chance for him being a good husband :]
2006-06-10 08:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by the freakin' analyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys suck at school.
Some guys don't want to be called NERD.
Some guys don't understand that they need to build for their future, and some don't have a plan.
No - it doesn't mean he'd be a bad husband or father. But make sure he's going to be able to provide for at least HALF of what you're going to need - and believe me - you're going to need ALOT, especially if you have children.
2006-06-10 08:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
School is important because it leads to jobs. If you don't mind supporting the family then stay with him. But if I were you I would tell him or encourage him to do better. If it's obvious he can't RUN. But don't put your plans to the side for him.
2006-06-10 09:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by mastapes21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is an idiot and does not care about school he is definitely in need of being your ex-boyfriend. He will flounder through life and not ever care about wanting more in life. He will live in a trailer park, smoke, drink and beat his wife. You do not want to be her.
2006-06-10 08:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by cdslsmn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are people who are good in studying and others whoa aren't! can't see a problem here! if he is a good person,with a good heart,if you love him and if he loves you,then you are perfect for each other! nothing else matters!
2006-06-10 08:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by tttpsunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to encourage ur boyfriend n i m sure he will listen to u.no one can change him other than u so try ur best in helping him out in his studies
2006-06-10 08:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by nimmi_das2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you should either support him well, or help him in his studies and try to make him(not forcing him) understand what he doesn't understand!
2006-06-10 08:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Brando Commando!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋