Will he ever leave his wife?

Question

I met a man almost too years ago " and I know its wrong" I should have resisted temptation but anyway, we met with the intention of it just being physical as we where both lacking that very much. We both have fallen deeply in love with each other. He tells me he has never loved another women like he does me.I would leave my spouse for him, however he says he is not ready to leave yet because of the kids,. He tells me I am his soulmate and that he can't live without me. Am I really fooling myself? By the way no criticism please as I already beat myself up over this whole thing!

Answer 1

I know you're going through hell over this, but honestly, he's NEVER going to leave his wife and kids. He keeps telling you that, to keep having sex with you, and all that other stuff is just a "line". If he wanted you, he already would have left her. Stop this affair, and devote the time and energy to your kids, and husband. He will use you as long as you allow him to. You love him, he loves to have sex with you. Well, you are better than that! Tell him it's over! Good Luck!!

Answer 2

You stated you are both married, so therefore instead of communicating with your spouse you opted to find the thrills else where.
So he won't leave his kids? Where there is a will there is a way. Love can conquer all things that come it way.
If you were or are truly his soul mate, no one who let that person get away. Regarless of what means it takes to hold onto the one you love.
I have heard and seen these guys before, he is just leading you on so that you will not quit giving it up to him and playing with your emotions. I would even worry if he has another soul mate on the side as well.
The two people who are getting hurt from this are your spouses. It is not fair to them, I am certain with communication any relationship will with stand anything that comes it's way. Even the phyical.
Make it work with your husband, turn a new leaf. So you went to the other side to try the grass and it wasn't greener. You can make your own marriage work, you are suppose to marry your soul mate. So he is right there at home waiting for you. Time is wasting on the other guy.
Drop him like a bad habit and get rid of bad rubbish. I am sorry if I offend you, but I am a firm believer if your married and want it to work out you will, if not move on and stop putting yourself and your husband through the drama. You are just not being fair or honest with him. But most of all you know in your heart he will never leave his wife so your not being fair to yourself either.
Time to come home from Fantasy Island and back to reality.

Answer 3

Dear Deb,
This is tough. I am married to a man who left his wife, but I wasn't the reason really. They had problems long before me, she had a "very bad" habit, and he couldn't live with that. I am sure thoe, if she wasn't like that, he would have never left his family. We have been together now for 21 years and make each other very happy. We have a daughter, but I say, that a child can never be a reason to stay in a bad relationship because the child feels all negative waves between his or her parents. If your man isn't unhappy at home, he won't leave. A child could never be a reason to screw up your own life, that way, you screw up every ones life. I recommend you to get out of there fast, no matter how much it hurts. You have a right to have a happy life, this way you are not happy. Find someone who deserves you. Good luck

Answer 4

He might, but not anytime soon. If he says he's not ready to leave, that means he's not ready to leave. "Nothing changes until the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change."

I had a friend that said he was leaving his wife for 6 years. Every few months, he was leaving. (no we weren't having an affair, just a good friend) He finally left, because she asked for a divorce, because she'd found someone else. Neither of them were happy, there were both just there for the kid.

Answer 5

Married men do not leave their wives. And even if he did, would you really want him because the chances are very great that he'll cheat on you. Men will say ANYTHING with the utmost sounding sincereity to get what they want. It's always "my wife doesn't understand me, she doesn't listen to me like you do, I would leave but the kids...maybe when they graduate high school...the wife isn't given me any, our love life has failed". All of those are typical of what a married man will say so that you will continue to hold on and wait and wait and wait. Again, married men do not leave their wives.

You are married yourself, try to work it out with your husband, if you can't, then you should divorce him and move on. Nobody wins when cheating is involved. Good luck.

Answer 6

You already know the answer to your question because you are "already beating yourself up"....
about the kids....they grow up and then there will be grandchildren..He will never leave his wife. If he really wanted to he would have left 2 years ago..
give your husband the attention you give this man...if you don't love him then do the best thing for him, divorce him.

Answer 7

My first instinct is to criticize you, but since you've already beat yourself up... I think you know.

YES! you are fooling yourself. Now that we BOTH know that, it's time to be strong and move away from this adulterer. A cheating man will tell you what you want to hear, sweety. Even if you two ever did get together, will you be able to trust him? NO! He cheated on someone he took vows with!!! What makes you any different/special?

Not only are you fooling yourself; HE IS fooling you too!
Gather up your self-esteem and move on! You'll be glad you did... eventually.

Answer 8

this man will never leave his wife for you, to him your just a friend of benifit nothing more he keeps you going by pretty words you want to hear. most men like him won't leave their wives for another as there concerned being taking to the cleaners for spouce and child support. and for him to tell you he isn't ready to leave yet because of the kids is his reason he isn't leaving his wife at all for you or anyone else

Answer 9

Didn't even have to read the other stuff, no, they never leave their wives unless she throws him out and even then, they may get back together. Spare yourself the heartache and move on.

Answer 10

1st mistake-Getting involved with someone when you are married.
2nd mistakes-Getting involved with someone who is married.
3rd mistake-Actually believing he will leave his family for you. He's just telling you that so he can play house and get laid. WAKE UP! Why did you even get married in the first place?