Am i right or wrong?

Question

My friend i found out has been showing others by having them open her email account mails sent to her by me very confidential stuff though its nothing bad i just feel bad(i dont know if she forwards them)but i feel violated now shes not coming online but i sent messages across with a common friend.Am i right or wrong?

Answer 1

YOUR RIGHT

Answer 2

If I understand this correctly, you are saying that e-mails or other messages that you have previously sent to your friend which you considered confidential, that friend has either forwarded or knowingly allowed other people to read, so in retaliation you have done the same to that friend and you would like to know if your retaliation is right or wrong?

OK... well as I see it (and it must be understood that this is only my humble opinion) that if you consider what your "friend" has done as wrong then your retaliation too must therefore be wrong. Two wrongs do not make a right (however, three lefts do) Whilst your revenge may taste sweet it is still wrong to retaliate by doing something to someone in the same manner in which they did it to you. A much better course of action would have been to tell the friend exactly how you felt about the betrayal of your confidence and to terminate your friendship with tha person as a result. After all, if you cannot trust your friends then they cannot be considered friends at all.

Answer 3

I guess that your friend doesn't have the right to show your messages to other people, unless it's something that's about a different subj. You know like t.v shows, food and whatever comes up your mind. If she knew that you wanted to keep this stuff a secret then she wouldn't have done that.
Since you already sent the same message to other people as well then there's nothing you should be bothered about. You've already told someone else. Why don't you just explain things to her?

Answer 4

that depends on the kind of "stuff" you have sent her. if it's REALLY confidential it is natural to react and feel bad about it.
learn from this incident and do not send her "stuff" that you feel are way too personal. trust your friend no more. you build a certain wall between your friendship. you can be friends but you'll never be too open with your life to her.

Answer 5

You are right to feel violated because you have been violated. Your "friend" was inconsiderate (to be kind) and outright disrespectful (to be less-than-kind). It appears she has no regard for your feelings.

If the messages you send to her through a common friend are asking for an explanation, then you are right to attempt to extract an explanation. However, I'd recommend against your continuing the friendship.

You've been hurt, you needn't be burned.

Answer 6

What she did means either
1) she doesn't respect you at all
or
2) she is not very clever
in any case, she will probably do this again.

You are right to be offended, she should have at least asked your
permission first.

I'd say dump her, or just stop talking to her. The longer you wait, the worse it'll get

Answer 7

Nothing is bad you said, so there is no problem. Why don't you tell her instead of talking to the other one. You are just like your friend. You are wrong.

Answer 8

I would stop talking to her and no longer be her friend... That is not right.. She is not a true friend if she is going to do something like that... So I'd get rid of her...

Answer 9

Yes, you have been violated. Same as being raped. Not a very nice friend to have.

Answer 10

She shouldn't be your friend anymore, you entrusted her with private matters, and she has made a mockery of you by sharing your emails with her friends.

Answer 11

You are right! She is WRONG! Find another person to be friends with!