We had a fight and she decided to go with her family. She keeps telling me that she is coming back home. But something always comes up is she really coming home...
2006-06-10 00:24:34 · 20 answers · asked by rebel_highlander 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless any of us are a legitimate fortune teller we can only speculate. But being a woman, myself, and from a woman's point of view, if your wife has told you she is going to come home, then try and relax. Have faith in what she is saying. Maybe this is a flaw in your marriage that needs to get worked out. You are going to run your self mentally crazy, if you can't believe your mate. Quit wasting precious energy being suspicious. Channel this energy into thinking what you are going to do differently when she comes home to work out the original problem. Tell yourself, you have nothing to fear, but your own suspicions. I promise you, that most break ups are caused by one or the other, accusing them of doing something. They figure if they are going to be accused, they might as well do it. Not good logic, but we are talking about love, and there is no logic in this emotion. Keep faith!!!
2006-06-10 09:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What was the fight about that she left? It must have been a serious one. It did not include any violence did it? As for her return
I think you should give her some time table, say 8 weeks, to figure out what's up, or stay away. Its way to easy for time to slip by when its open ended. She's playing you with delay. Again, the nature of the argument is important, but generally, a separation is to figure out if one wants to stay married. Problems do not solve themselves while apart. That can only be accomplished together.
She needs to get back home and work on this or start looking for a permanent residence. Family is not a good place to go either. They will be the sympathetic ear and when done, your wife may change her mind about you but then her family might not. Its a good way to sour your in-laws for life.
2006-06-10 01:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. How long have you guys been married. This happens often in a marriage. I've been married for 21 years. I love my husband, but it's not always easy.
The other thing is, that if she doesn't come back, than it wasn't meant to be. I know, that it's not nice to hear, but I just think she needs time. Try to think it over, and find out what you both have done wrong and fix it. All relationships have problems, lots and lots of problems, but you shouldn't turn back on it, just because you can't solve it in a week. Things take time. It takes time to get to know the other. You would think that we know each other after 21 years, but we still surprise one another nowadays. Good luck, and don't forget, that there are two sides of a coin. Problems never gain, just because of the other one.
2006-06-10 01:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how serious of a fight it was that caused her to leave, or what your lives were like leading up to it. But speaking from experience, if she is still wearing her ring and talking to you saying she's coming home, then she will be back. Sounds to me like she was really hurt and confused about this fight and just keeps giving herself a little more time to herself. I've been in a similar situation as this and I know that's how I was feeling. Just kept wanting just a little bit more time to pull myself together. Just be patient with her.
2006-06-10 00:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by curious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, I'm sorry you're going through this. I think alot depends on your circumstances. How bad was the fight? Do ya'll fight all the time? Are there kids involved?
Maybe she just needs some time to think. Usually women want to talk though. Is she willing to talk things through? You need to tell her you want honesty. Don't let her keep putting you off because the longer she is gone the less chance she will come home.
The best of luck to you.
2006-06-10 00:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Cyndee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think so and she still wears her ring because she still loves you and wants to be your wife and is commited to you even though you are separated. Did you guys work everything out after the fight and have forgiven each other?
2006-06-10 08:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs some time cooling off. Maybe she's not ready to go back home. You can call her and tell her that you want to work things out.
2006-06-10 00:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by QQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, women need to sort things out in their heads and when they are ready they will let you know. Just give her time to figure it all out: when she comes back (she will) work on your problem resolution skills (hint: always be gentle, kind and considerate and treat her the way you would want to be treated).
2006-06-10 00:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by Aurora Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she gets ready to come home, she will, yes. The more you aggravate her about it, the longer it's going to take though. Just ler her take the time she needs away from you, and she will return......better than ever! Good Luck, I KNOW it's hard!
2006-06-10 00:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience.
2006-06-10 00:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by QuestOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋