I have been seeing this guy, he is wonderful, sweet caring, and sensitive. He picks me up from work most mornings, and takes me to breakfast once in a while. He will walk with his arm around me in public, or around my waist. He has asked me to join him on outings and such like to da beach, but he hasnt kissed me yet. Could he be waiting for my divorce to be officially finalized? and if so should I talk to him about it? He also has a girlfrined he hasnt broke up with yet and he says he dont wanna be with her so could he be also waiting to see how things go between me and him after my divorce is over to see if he really wants to leave her? SHould I settle for this type of relationship with him while he figures it all out or am I setting myself up for heartbreak? He is really sweet and I respect him for keeping his commitment with his girlfriend for now, so its not like he is cheating on her other than seeing me and hanging out alot and talking on the phone all the time. Any advice?
2006-06-08 23:33:55 · 15 answers · asked by His Sunshine Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No he isnt a homewrecker. My marriage has been physically over for 2 years so really no rebound effect either. I actually moved to a new state after we filed for divorce , and his relationship with his girl is rocky to begin with, with him not trusting her and she cheated on him, n got preggo and he dont think its his. cuz the timing is off from when he was with her. but I think since he is still technically with her that he dont wanna physically do anything with me other than whats mentioned in original question.
2006-06-12 02:51:37 · update #1
gosh was this a homewrecker? or are u stealing him away from her?..u could be going through a divorce and he may never leave her.. he hasn't even tried to break it off yet. as for the kiss.. maybe it could lead to other things like sleeping together, and he's not ready for it?.. well.. be patient about it.. i wouldn't be worried about a kiss.. i would be questioning his committment, if he has a gf..?? good luck
2006-06-08 23:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the question is, what are you waiting for, seems like your toying with him. He may just really care for you and realizes that your the one who hasn't let go and is waiting for you to make the decision. I think hes playing it cool. on the other hand, if you see what you really want and you know it, then go for it, i think you might be the one stalling. either way a new commitment after divorce (rebound) is the last thing anyone needs, i hope everyone may agree to that! but if fun is what your looking for then go for it, otherwise stop toying with each other. Divorce is hard enough.
2006-06-09 06:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by holdonto_mr_brightside 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds lik a gentleman to me whos trying to take things slow and simple. He doesnt want to hurt either one of u and therefore isnt rushing into anything..dont take it the wrong way..jus appriciate that you're spending time with someone who seems to be a gr8 guy from the way u described him and that hes takin u both into consideration here and not jumping into anything too serious too soon. Also..he mite not want to seem lik a typical guy takin things way too fast and kissing u and being all over u too soon...
Also if hes stil wit his gf..then maybe he doenst want to get 'trapped' by makin a move on u while stil being wit her...i would say not to get too attached to him incase he chooses her over u..but also dont distance urself too much incase u do hava chance wit him... :) good luk...
2006-06-09 06:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Evie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm sounds like you are playing "the other woman"....you should tell him that he needs to break up with his girlfriend NOW, no excuses. Don't wait for him! There are lots of guys out there that can appreciate you! "its not like he is cheating on her" yeah, it sounds like he IS, but hes in denial and thats why he hasnt kissed you. Maybe he thinks that by kissing you it is officially cheating... but he knows what he is doing, he's just trying to get out of the technicality in case he gets caught with his arm around you he can say "we never even kissed! we are just friends!" DITCH HIM!!
2006-06-09 06:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is trying to be sensitive. well if there is nothing on your mouth then he probably think tha it will be more appropriate if he wait until u make da next move so won't u do dat then you'll see his reaction. and its always good to catch em when they least expect it
2006-06-09 08:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch out for them type, some act all sweet and nice but after they can be assholes tell him how you feel let him know you want to be kissed by kissing him first
2006-06-09 06:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by sweetleafpurplelover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys r really shy or intimidated by girls, try making the first move to brake the ice
2006-06-09 07:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is gay.
If you want to kiss him, then kiss him.
Of course, is it really a good idea to date someone who's not available?
2006-06-09 06:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE HAS NOT KISSED U. THEN U KISS HIM I THINK IF HE IGNORES THEN U ASK HIM IF ITS THE CASE OF YOUR DIVORCE.GO FOR DON'T LEAVE HIM IF HE HAS NOT KISSED U HE MAY BE THINKING THE SAME AS U ARE.
2006-06-09 06:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by DHRUV 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is kissing necessary for him to prove his love for you?
2006-06-09 06:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by Bolan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋