2006-06-08 22:29:48 · 21 answers · asked by cuti g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Revenge is not the best solution. Revenge only aggravates matters.
He may cheat on you, but he is isn't willing to separate from you. This can be an ace on your sleeve to make him repent his ways.
You may no longer enjoy his company because of what he did, but if he repents, then you may enjoy it again.
If getting out becomes the only solution, then do it legally. The worst thing that could happen is pointing a accusing finger on someone only to find that three fingers are pointing back at you.
2006-06-08 22:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is not the solution to you situation. If you want out of a marriage, then leave and don't look back. Making him hurt will not make you feel better. I would say the very best way to get "revenge" is to not let him see it bothered you at all. Just tell him you made your bed now "lie" in it, and go on about your life and find happiness wherever you can.
2006-06-09 05:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Home Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he cheated. He says NO. Where is your proof? Did you catch him in the act? It sounds like you are a spiteful little shrew.
You should take a hard look at the state of your attitude before embarking on a revenge trip. If you think he cheated, yet he says no, can it be you projecting your search for a reason to get out? Its time for you to do some self examination.
2006-06-09 07:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the master of this question!!! Do you know the persons he has cheated with? (Send them all an anoymous postcard letting each of the women know he's HIV +), Open a checking/Savings of your own (1st drain all your communal funds out of your joint accounts and close it), Move yourself out into a extra bedroom if you have the room, NO more SEX with this person....(he could transmit to you AIDS, HERPES, or some other STD)....... You can always put superglue on his sheets after he's gone to bed. (Hmmmmmmm----takes an act of god to remove them once the sheets have stuck) Establish credit in your own name. Cut up all of his Credit cards (he might be using those to entertain these other females)
Seek out a lawyer and file for divorce!!!! You're better off if you file first as the Plaintiff then waiting for the deadbeat to file against you! Ask your attorney about the laws in your state in regards to adultry.
Good luck@
2006-06-09 06:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the revenge. that's just more energy you're giving to the situation. if you have children think of them first. you need to make clean break. clean and cold. find that switch inside of you and shut it down. if there are kids involved think about them, he is still the father (if he is). with that in mind don't move to the other side of the country, he will deserve by law opportunity to see his children.
oh a nasty little trick: get a list of all the best divorce lawyers in your town and talk to them. hire the best you can but an initial conversation with each of them can set the stage for conflict of interest (they cannot work for him if they might work for you).
2006-06-09 06:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living well is the best revenge. Be the best person you can be and enjoy your life. See if he can "get on board" with you positive direction in life. If not, he'll see real soon that he a loser.
2006-06-09 07:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know the one he cheated with. Put aside anger and let her know what he did to you. Convince her that he is not worth the trouble. Then he will lose out both ways at once. It will show him that he is not worth fighting over. Then he will know that he has to make you happy in order to keep you. But do what makes YOU happy. Dont let him bring you down. Lifes to short for that.
2006-06-09 05:56:28 · answer #7 · answered by Babyboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce, take the loser to the cleaners.
Get the car, the house and the kids.
Then sleep with his buddies.
He is worthless because he has no respect for you or your marriage.
He WILL cheat again, once a cheater always a cheater.
My first love cheated on me over 20 years ago and it still pisses me off.
My LAST one cheated on me.
2006-06-09 05:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by alysonhell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge won't make you feel any better. Let time heal the wounds.
2006-06-09 07:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by zmebme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my father just had an affair on my mother and she's so freaking sad her and my father! and so my mother plan revenge she wanted to like practically make him suffer. and she was about to and she didn't because she was sorry for him so i tell you yes it (pardon my french but...) ****** sucks i know i broken up and sometimes you just want to freaking kill the person but you have to think about who are you going to affect not just yourself so whatever man stay strong!!!!!!!!! sometimes sorrow leads to total ****** happiness! later!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-09 06:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by hungry hippo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋