my bestfriend told me that he loves me . we are friends for past 4 years . i agreed with him . but i know my parents would not be agreed with this relationship . i had sex with him. and love him very much . he is very sensitive and will die if i refused to marry him. after having sex he is more attached to me and wants to marry me. what should i do?
2006-06-08 21:57:12 · 8 answers · asked by riya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no other go. Marry him instantly, start your own family. The parents may not agree due to unwanted sentiments and infatuation. Now this is your life, you have to take lead and decide. You did nothing wrong. You parents will come to their senses and accept both of you when you marry and show your child to them. Nothing is important when it comes to love and sex.
If you are adult and major, even law comes to your rescue. Your parents cannot do anything, but to agree.
2006-06-08 22:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would your parents not agree? Unless he is of a different religon that is the only problem I can see because that is a train wreck but if you had sex outside of marriage you arn't serious about your religons anyway so I'd say Get married your friend is the best person to marry because they know who you really are. I think you leaving out a major detail which would affect the answers you get.
2006-06-09 05:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love him? well how much do you love him! Are you in love with him? You have to do what feels right to you in your heart of hearts and not because you don't want to hurt someone else because in the long run it will turn sour. Don't rush it. If it is right it will happen eventually. Nurture the relationship because it went from friends to sex etc etc. Good luck n god bless.
2006-06-09 05:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either get married to him and sooner or later your parents will get over it and accept him...because they cant disown you for life. You are still gonna be the daughter of them.
Or
Leave him.......he is insecure and he has no self esteem. Needs to grow up and go talk to your parents.
I realized main thing about asian families is that ,,,the boyfriend needs to get along with the family. your family needs to fall in love with him to accept him in the family.....so make him hang out with your family more...if not as your bf then as a friend of your......but they need to get to know him more..so maybe then they will accept him.
2006-06-09 05:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I think you are confusing feeling "loved"
with loving in return. If someone says they are going to die if you don't love them back or marry them, they are probably not the most emotionally healthy person around.
It would probably be better NOT to get involved with this person. Instead, get them to a therapist.
2006-06-09 05:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very needy and pathetic, tell him theres more to life then his obsessive infatuation and that he should find a new hobby other than to put you in such a difficult position.
2006-06-09 05:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem too young to have marriage on your mind. you should get him to know your parents as your friend, and things will change with time.
also, know one thing for sure - NOBODY dies for love, everyone feels that way and says it. he probably says it to express how much he loves you. but if tomorrow you and him split up, he wouldn't kill himself and nor would you. so don't believe such childish nonsense - it's called emotional blackmail and too many movies!
2006-06-09 05:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be a girl from any asian countries.......ok no probs....try to make your parents understanding you...then marry him immediately.
2006-06-09 05:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by sri_pondy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋