i am going through alot here lately ever since the birth of my daughter,i just cant find a good man that will except me for who i am and that i have a daughter. are there really guys out there that want a instant family???
2006-06-08 20:25:18 · 21 answers · asked by babygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes but they're hard to find. Concentrate on bringing up your daughter to be a strong and beautiful person and your love life will come later. Unfortunately kids mean you have to take a back seat. It's way more important that she sees you being strong and independant, not constantly looking for a mate.
2006-06-08 20:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by smsgreaves 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes there are guys out there that want an instant family. Any man that can not except the fact that you have a daughter, and that your daughter takes the center stage in everything you do, then he is not worth your time.
2006-06-09 00:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anubis_70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age and your requirements. If you are young and want an equally young guy, forget it those who want instant family are rare and those who do may have other agendas.
On the other side of that there are creeps out there (of all ages) who'll take advantage of you and your situation thinking that you must be desparate for a baby's daddy and will lay all kinds of crap on you to get you into bed... then wind up dumping you or worse. Not good for you and your little one.
If you still really want to pursue a guy, two pieces of advice... go for an older much more mature man (notice I said man, not guy) one who perhaps has a child(ren) of his own and is now divorced. If anyone can understand your situation and love you for you and cherish your little one... it's this kind of guy.
Sure you may not get a hot frat boy who likes to party... but you're now in a situation where you can't afford to be a little party sorority girl either. You've got one of the biggest gifts (and responsibilities) you can ever ask for. A precious little one.
2006-06-09 00:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by RAllen1st 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, its a hard decision. I mean because firstly, a good mother always puts a child first. What does that mean for me? I'm always last, as it should be but it sucks. If she's a poor mother she'd put me first but then I wouldn't want to be with her, its a catch 22. Also, any future between the person and single-mother, eventually he would have to financially help the child out, if he's a responsible and good person. However, its almost like paying for someone else's choice and that would cause me to have resentment. So intellectually I probably wouldn't want a single mother. However, love does funny things to people and if the love is real for the mother then it will be transmitted to the child as well.
2006-06-08 21:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by solitas777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two boys and like you wondered if there is a nice guy out there that wants an instant family.
I now have a lovely boyfriend, who after a year of going out together, I've now introduced him to my boys. They all get on like a house on fire which is great.
Don't give up hope. You will meet someone, but it may take time.
2006-06-08 20:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by trackie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that there are some guys that would just go out for you for who you are and at the same time like to have an instant family. i have wanted a family for a while i just have not settled down but i would have no problem if it came down to it getting with a women who already has a kid.
2006-06-08 20:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon my best friend went through the same thing.it may take some time but she found someone.i totally congradulate you on being a single mom.trust me you can do things better off by your self for now.Just worry about your prescious baby for now and then along the rode you'll meet someone that appreciates you for you and accepts that fact that you have a child.They might even love the child....Dont worry everything will be ok and turn out fine.just give things time....Trust
2006-06-08 20:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by prettythugg1524 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stick with one after knowing all of these things. Just search for family friends and have fun, and search/work for your daughter's future, without locking with other single, be free.
2006-06-08 20:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by bestpairforever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey that guy is dumb who says no one will want you anyways just think maybe youll meet a guy with a kid too or as long as you dont hide the fact that you have a kid most guys shouldnt mind if they are mature.but you have to still try and look good cause physical attraction is the first part of wanting to be with someone
2006-06-08 20:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by texas boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if a guy really loves you for who you are, even with a daughter, he'll still love you for it... And for the sake of making it work, he'll learn to love your daughter despite of him not being the biological father
2006-06-08 20:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by Miss_Perfect 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋