WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 24 YEARS, AND I LOVE HIM WITH ALL OF MY HEART---BUT I FEEL THAT I AM DYING INSIDE. AN AFFAIR IS OUT OF THE QUESTION~~I ASKED IF MAYBE HE SHOULD TALK TO OUR FAMILY DR. HE SAID THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HIM```SOMEONE HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-08 20:23:34 · 15 answers · asked by FRANCIE B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Does your husband watch porn or check out xxx web site? Do you know if he masturbates? If the answer is yes to any of the above, then it's not his sex drive that's the problem. Most likely he's bored with and tired of you. You've been married a long long time and most guys (whether they admit it or not) get tired of doing the same woman after too many years. You were 26 when you guys married, and probably a nice young hot chick then. You're now 50 and perhaps a bit baggy, saggy and old ladyish... you remind him that he too is also an old fart and not that hot young stud he was when he was in his 20s. How does he feel about you otherwise? Does he still love you and care about you? Other than the sex thing how is he as a husband or as a father? If the other things are positive then maybe his desire for sex or specifically sex with you has waned. Maybe if he got some strange (not meaning to be crude, just honest) or some young chickie his attitude about sex may change and he may become a new man.
2006-06-09 00:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by RAllen1st 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a husband and wife who are 60 and 58.They still engage in sex as if it is the first time. The wife moans and shouts so loud that it could be heard two blocks away if the husband does not turn the TV loud.
She still loves to be eaten and explode in the husband's mouth mouth.
I think your husband as erectile dysfunction which is common among men over 40. That is originating from the prostate. You should go to an urologist and have his prostate examined.
2006-06-09 05:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by seabug_46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe there iz take him 2 da doctor just 2 be sure u can never be 2 sure and maybe he iz cheating on u i'm just saying maybe but if u can sit down and talk 2 him and start be saying u no i love u wit all my heart but i want 2 no if u r cheating or iz sum'n wrong and don't lie 2 me cuz i will pack my things and go if he thinks ur bluffin leave but first make sure u have a place 2 stay and then talk and if he don't u better leave if u don't u stupid the loves just not there any more and maybe u just have 2 face it ask him if he iz hiding any thing just try 2 talk 2 him if not try talking to one of hiz closest friend and see wat u can find out bout him trust me if this don't work i don't know wat u have 2 do
2006-06-09 03:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey francie!
from what i've read, it's normal for ones sex drive to naturally drop with age...
how was your sex life before? did anything big happen right before you noticed the change- like maybe he got fired or lost a promotion?
have you really talked about how this has made you feel?
unwanted... unattractive... whatever?
i think if you lovingly when to your husband and poured out your heart, he would re-think the doctor option.
if not, you could talk to your doctor and see if they have any advice..
in the mean time... i agree that having an affair isn't a good option...
but there are ways to enjoy yourself with out your husband!
who knows? maybe him listening to you or sneaking a peek will draw something out?
best wishes- i hope it works out!
2006-06-09 03:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by gone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with his medical doctor. He may be taking pills which may cause him to be impotent and the doctor can prescribe Viagra. A little dirty movies and going down on him might help.
2006-06-09 03:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by nannygoat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a problem... and only a doctor and your husband can find out or know what that problem is...... you need to gently talk to him about it, tell him all your concerns.... ask questions.... tell him you are concerned because of his health and you love him soooooooo much....... He may have a problem he is embarrased about....... so suggest that he may not want to talk to you, but he could go to his doctor.... a man doctor and spill it...... be open and honest and ask him to PLEASE do the same..... God bless
2006-06-09 03:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there nothing wrong with him, why isn't he paying you any attention? And, I think your a better person than most for not going outside the marriage. Good for you !!!
2006-06-09 03:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Horny for Goat weed. a product desinged to increase the sexual desire. There is product for men and women. Find it at your local pharmiscist
2006-06-09 03:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to speak with a counselor. Obviously there IS something wrong, and he knows it.
2006-06-09 03:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY SEEING IF HE CAN GET INVOLVED IN RECREATIONAL SPORTS. THIS MIGHT INCREASES HIS TESTOROMES LEVEL AND HIS DESIRE FOR SEX. AND TRY TO DO MORE INTIMATE THINGS AS HUSBAND AND WIFE THAT WILL BRING YOU TO CLOSER NOT SEXUALLY AT FIRST BUT CLOSER BOND AND MAN AND WIFE
2006-06-09 03:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by SILK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋