My husband and i have been married for 3 yrs and he refuses to go down on me. I thought it was me, even went to the Dr. to make sure everything was straight in that area. Finally talked to my husband and he has had a horriable expreience with a privouse partner. He did it once and never again. It is affecting our sex life. How do we get past this and he return the favor...cause he gets his once a week if not more and he get pissed if he doesn't! PLZ HELP.
2006-06-08 20:05:47 · 13 answers · asked by kant_think 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When it comes to sexual matters, both partners have to agree to do what both of them enjoy; you cannot force him to go down on you. I understand how you feel, but you will have to accept the fact that your husband does not enjoy doing that. Try to enjoy other sexual activities.
2006-06-09 06:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by Belindita 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop going down on him. Enjoy each other in different ways, but quit giving him bj. It's not right of him to refuse you just because of an old girlfriend. Get him to talk to you about why it bothers him so much, then try to help him work through it. But no going down for either of you until he's ready. Its only fair!
2006-06-09 03:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some things we just have to learn to live with. Some men have such a repulsion that they cannot even stand to have there face down there. Think of it this way and it may put things into perspective. If you would gag and feel sick every time you went down on him would you enjoy it and be aroused. I don't think so. You have to be considerate
2006-06-09 03:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by snappy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs counseling and help for this, Shave there for him or have him shave you so he does not get hair in his mouth. Make sure to douche and use feminine wash too. Buy lots of flavor for him and he will love the taste and be able to have fun with it agian. Do you give him oral at all? Talk to him about this and see what you could do to make it more fun for him!
2006-06-09 07:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wish I had the solution for you. For me, I love to go down on a woman. I think about that more than I do about actual intercourse. I love pleasing the woman before me. Tell him that his bad experience was in the past and grow up. I had a bad one before to, but that didnt stop me. You are his now and future. I didnt think a man like that existed, one that doesnt like to go down on a lady. Good Luck!
2006-06-09 03:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by hageboz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man who's constantly satisfied in this way has no motivation to humble himself and please you. Even if he can never bring himself to serve you this way, take a little control back by withholding BJs from him until he's ready to try again. Always approach him as clean as you can be too.
2006-06-09 03:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by chdoctor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps if you used some kind of sweetener on your p#ssy hand gave him such a good blo@ job that he was out of this world he may forget his bad experience, their is nothing better than a well juiced p#ssy to suck on.
2006-06-09 08:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by cowsformeatandmilk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need professional help....to go deep into his previous experience and sort it out. All the best
2006-06-09 03:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by ksrinimurthy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go down on him til he is prepared to return the favour
2006-06-09 03:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by smsgreaves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id stop giving him blowjobs!! and sex 4 that matter
2006-06-09 03:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋