Hidden marriage to a army soilder?

Question

Me and my as of now husband have been together almost a year. About two months ago he signed up for the army and is now going through his training. Of course, before he left me and him pretty much enloped. There's only one tiny problem. I haven't exactly told my mom yet. I just graduate high school in May, but how do I tell my mom I'm already marriage to a guy she's Hates and that I won't see for another 5 months!?

Answer 1

You and I could date over the next 5 months. I can meet your mom (mom's love me, don't worry).

At the end of the 5 months, I will break it to your mom, that even though our sex life is great, their is just no room in your heart for me. You are still in love with your ex, and that I have to move on.

Your mom will accept our decision.

Answer 2

Have you thought about explaining it like a "business deal", rather than a marriage? You have been given a built-in insurance policy with your marriage license that will make your future more financially secure if your husband is injured or killed in the line of duty. Since you say your Mom hates him, this might ease her pain a bit, or just give her something to wish for! She'll get over it, trust me!

Answer 3

i just grad too my fiancee is in the army whos in Iraq right now and i had to tell my mom that we're engaged for a year already and he'd wrote her a letter and called her tellin her how he is and how much he is in love with me things like that my mom didn't know him at all she freaked out and stuff but shes loves the idea of us being together going to get married. She likes the idea of him havin money because he's in Iraq and they pay you alot for being over there. ( in the unit he's in) Just tell her that you guys really love each other and you guys did what you had to do because you knew she wouldn't agree. Tell her he's in the army and why ask your husband how many years he signed up for and ask if you get benefits getting married to him since he's in the army you might i am not sure so talk to him or look it up before you talk to her. i know being engaged is different then being married but i kinda know what your going through both of our men is in the army. so go get the facts straight and see if that will help GOOD LUCK !

Answer 4

Its tough being married right out of high school, its even harder being married and not spending time with your spouse. You need to tell your mom but dontexpect for her to be too happy about it. I wish you all the best of luck in your marriage I hope it works out with your mom.

Answer 5

Honesty! At least he won't be around to strangle. And if you are of age, then she can't do much about it except get upset with you.
And as we all know they get over it sooner or later. And maybe she'll take into the fact that he is going into the military to support you, it is showing he is grown up and taking responsibility

Answer 6

Tough one!! But the only way is to be honest with her and understand that you are her daughter and that any angry is coming from loving you and worrying about u so give her the time to be upset, she deserves it and when she sees your happy, she'll be happy for you.

Answer 7

Do you have to tell your mother?
I never advise people to lie, but you don't have to tell that you "eloped"
Did you get a marriage license?
If no, then just wait until he comes back to get "married"

Answer 8

Tough one. Just be honest. Tell her how much you love each other, and how happy you make each other.

Answer 9

STAY WITH HIM IF U LOVE HIM!! DONT WORRY WHAT YOUR MOM WOULD SAY LOL , DO WHAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT.....IF UR MOM DOESENT LIKE HIM THEN , TOUGH! SHE'LL HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIM , ANYWAYS , I GOTTA GO CYA TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCK!=)

Answer 10

No reason to tell her anything.......UNLESS you may be pregnant.
Otherwise wait until he returns home, and are both able to tell her together. In the meantime, please be making plans for your own place when he returns. Congratulations!