Married, seperated, on the road to divorce, but obviously miserable and the relationship with the spouse has ended. Months after you call the quits you begin to have a "mental flirtatious affair" with his best friend. No intent to be devias but u cant control your feelings. Do u walk away miserable and never pursue the new relationship? or Do you take a chance life is too short? Both people are head over heels for one another and both scared to make a move, because morally its wrong.
2006-06-08 19:39:07 · 9 answers · asked by Sukara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Follow your heart and take a chance because life is too short.
2006-06-08 19:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait till after the divorce is finalized. But does he really want to lose his friend forever? Cause if the best friend dates you, the guys will never be on anything but yelling terms. If you have children by the first guy, I'd suggest walking away from the friend. It'll only make your life harder to juggle kids by ex and his best friend!
2006-06-09 02:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes - but be cautious it's really your heart speaking and not another motive - such as getting back at your spouse, connecting ONLY on the relationship you have through the spouse, etc. be real, take things one day a time, and if u feel like you are going to be overwhelmed by doing things bit by bit, my feeling is unfortunately the relationship will be fleeting instead of long lasting.
2006-06-09 02:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by xxsn0wxxbunnixx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fail to see where this is wrong? If you are getting divorced what's the problem? Realistically you will probably use him as a rebound and end up with someone completely diffrent in the end. The attraction is probably the thrill of it being "wrong".
2006-06-09 02:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you arent divorced yet. which technically means you are still married.... you have to have the time to heal from what you've already gone thru. this means 1 yr from the day you were divorced only then will it be real feelings instead of rebound feelings. also it sounds like you want to hurt your soon to be ex.
but you know what? you are gonna regret it and sooner than later
and the only real person you end up hurting is yourself........
2006-06-09 02:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please give yourself some time out of your old relationship before taking on another. Enjoy your newfound freedom and independance. If this is truly love, and not lust/infatuation, it will withstand a little time. You dont need to walk away, and be miserable. But you dont need to jump in up to your neck either.
This is not a life and death situation. Please dont make it into one.
2006-06-09 03:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you and hubby didn't make it. so be with the man if he makes
you happy. don't worry about people judging you. thats whats
wrong with alot of people today, always worring about what people say, so they don't pursue what they really want, so
they choose to be miserable. like you said, life is to short.
it is your happiness were talking about here. so if the man
makes you happy, be with him. people will judge you, but they
don't have the final answer. i see no wrong, so be happy girl.
2006-06-09 03:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by sexy brown eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"...morally it's wrong"? Sorry, I'm having difficulty seeing why it is wrong, morally or otherwise. If you two love each other, be happy. If that harelips the devil, then the devil can wear a harelip.
2006-06-09 02:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finalize divorce.
Take three months off..........no dates,no calls....just time for you.
Then see how you feel.
2006-06-09 04:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋