When I met my bf he was the most wonderful guy on the face of the planet.Almost too good to be true.Then, we moved in together and I found out the true person inside.See, when we got together, he told me he was a virgin.Im not a virgin,and I didnt expect him to be one by any means,but the first night we had sex,he confessed that he had sex with one girl before me.I was devastated that he lied to me!(this was when we were together for 4 months.)Then I got on the computer and found out he had been talking to girls online,and he even told one that he hadnt "gotten any" from me,even though we already had sex!He also was talking dirty with them,and i found one skanks # in his phone!I confronted him and he apologized and nothing bad has happened since.Weve been together 1 year now and things have been great.We are engaged and very much in love.The thing is,I just cant seem to forget what he did to hurt me.How do I know it wont happen again?I really love this man dearly.Any advice would help.
2006-06-08 18:55:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK. as a guy, who has done that, i was tempted to do that time and time again. but my girl keeps me in check(m not pu**y whipped). she is more than i can handle. which is good. she is not forgiving, but she knows how to punish me. i mean, she loves me, and she knows that i love her. it has been three years now, and i havent even looked at another girl (matter of speaking). she trusts me, and boy, that is all i need.
2006-06-08 19:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by Neo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I Cant Help U But, U Need To Do It Urself Coz U Know the Actual Situation,, May Be He Has Changed Himself For U, But In Past He Lied n Betrayed, That Was Bad, One More Thing If U r Unconfortable, Don't Go Ahead Wid Him, May Be He Is Still the Same Guy From Past, And If U Love him a Lottt...Take a Chance......
BEST OF LUCK
Take Care
2006-06-09 02:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by Gulrez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was very insecure at the start, and he felt like he had to tell you that he was a virgin in order to impress you.(maybe he felt like that is what girls like to hear)..when he realized it was OK to be honest he told you the truth. Some guys need to feel good about themselves outside of their relationships, and although I don't agree with it, it happens. Why don't you try and mention the situation to him again, sort of like remember when so and so happened...if you are going to marry him you have to be honest about your feelings about this....goin on holding this in is only gonna make you feel stressed out. Talk to him about it, see what his reaction is, if you two love each other as much as you claim you do, the conversation would turn out to be a honest, heartfelt one, maybe he'll even tell you his reasons for doing it, who knows? But definitely address the issue before you make a lifelong commitment to a man, that it seems like you don't trust completely.
Good luck, and I hope this helped.
2006-06-09 02:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know that it won't happen again in your heart then you don't truly trust him and you CAN NOT marry him. Trust your gut, if you can't trust him after only a year then you will not trust him when you have a big fat pregnant belly.
You should have broken up with him when you first found out about the lies.
Either get over it and really trust him or get out while you still can!
2006-06-09 02:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by Poutine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in doubt as he lied to you.. but think he might have told that to secure you .. since one year you didn't find him doing wrong.. if he is a person to do he might have repeated it by now .. and if it's nature you can't stop him doing that .. only thing that matters is if your love is true .. don't keep all this in heart which makes you go in negative way..Get married and be happy .. all the luck
2006-06-09 02:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by sirineni@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know it won't happen again. You trust that it doesn't. If your trust is strong enough, you'll know it won't.
If you don't trust him, think seriously about a marriage commitment to him. Marriages are built on trust. Yes, things will probably improve over time, the longer he keeps his word..but will you ever be able to eliminate these nagging feelings?
2006-06-09 02:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by thundernlightning 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i know how you feel. but if you lived a year together happy, then you guys are great. but if he continues, #1 go to the girls and beat the snot out of them and #2 just let him go. there r more men that are better. at least he apologized.
2006-06-09 02:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by strawberry fields 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't think you will be able to forgive and forget, then
don't marry him. b/c if you can't, it's going to stick with you
all the time, and there will constance problems. you won't
be able to trust him but even though you try, but haven't
forgave and forgot it won't do any good. so just make sure
before you get married, you are truly able to let it go for good.
2006-06-09 02:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by sexy brown eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF u love him..just give him a second chance..it`s for someone u love anyway..maybe now that he had realised how much u love him..but..if u don`t love him anymore and cannot forget for what he had done to u...just say to him ...U can go to hell!
2006-06-09 01:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Shamo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's lied, practically cheated, hid things from you. Don't try to forget, keep an eye him. That way you'll see it coming when he really screwes you over.
2006-06-09 02:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by Judy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋