I keep hearing people who are in long term monogomous relationships living together with children say that marriage will ruin their relationship. Why? It sounds to me like they are in a marriage relationship. Is it the religious aspect or the government aspect that will ruin it. If you are religious you can have a ceremony and not necessarily have the government interference. It is still sacred. Or do you not want somebody financially and legally tied to you so that you can escape without too much financial reprucussion. Maybe having a piece of paper is like jinxing it. I really want to understand but just don't get it.
2006-06-08 18:42:28 · 7 answers · asked by tryingtolearnsomething 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe it's how people think of marriage. I know that when I was married to my ex, we never got along. When we divorced, we got along much better. After 2 1/2 years, we got married again (biggest mistake ever) and didn't get along again. I believe it's a matter of how people view marriage, how they were raised to think of it, what they observed while growing up, etc.
2006-06-08 18:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do not get it either..... I think, and this is just me of course, that ppl do not marry because , yes they leave an open door to escape out of..... no strings, no attachments, no binding ties to stop them from just going...... and also yes, ppl have the mind set that it may be a jinx or the attitude, why fix it if it ain't broke...... and some ppl may have been married before and they are gun shy........ and some ppl feel it is just a waste of paper and a lic. or vow is just silly...... they really don't think the paper is important in a true love relationship........ hope this as helped some...and if you read up on the history of marriage, it was not like it is today a 100 or so years ago.. back then the father just handed the girl over to the guy, of course she had a bridal price he had to pay.... look into it , it is interesting stuff..... God bless
2006-06-09 02:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see both sides here but either way i feel the marriage is by far the best! A piece of paper does not jinx anything. God will bless it more if you get married and vow before him and others to love honor and cherish each other till death do you part! Living together is not really a comittment and i feel it is imorral and wrong! Living together is not sacred either!
2006-06-09 06:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is really the best bond one is needed to be tied in.. one feels it ruins when they don't love their partner with whole heart and don't understand the relationship values.. true people are living in monogomus relation .. thinking that they have freedom.. but what does that freedom means.. is it running away from each other .. doing unjustice to the kids if they have ..many are doing this as they don't understand the value of strong relation .. to me I feel they do this of getting scared of responsibilities.. more over if one thinks in marketing strategy then also they always have a shoulder to rest on especially in dark shades of life..
2006-06-09 01:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by sirineni@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm culturely married, and not legally by paper. And have been for 6 and a half years now. There is no difference, a paper don't mean nothing, it's just proof.
2006-06-09 01:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a serious bond between 2 people shouldn't be used and abused if you didn't have the bond with the person you married then why did you get married in the frist place..
2006-06-09 01:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by Get_Cha_Some 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between the QUANTITY and the QUALITY of a commitment.
2006-06-09 03:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by chdoctor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋