so weve known each other 8 years, been together 6 months, i got laid off from my job of 3 years (******* mortgage) last month and iv ebeen going on interviews since, today he made me move out till i have a new job and money, for someone who wants to marry me thats not cool right? id never done that to him. im pissed, what do u think?
2006-06-08 18:22:42 · 24 answers · asked by stephanie s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Doesn't sound like he is very interested in being a good provider to you and any kids. Sounds very selfish.
2006-06-08 18:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats honestly really messed up of him.He should want to be there and help you mentally,physically and financially.Your the one he wants to marry so there should not be any kicking out....Talk to him about it.Its not like your not trying to get another job.I could see if you were being lazy but your not.You have the right to be pissed. Just talk to him about how messed up hes being and how its not fair if under different circumstances such as he getting laid off you would never do such a thing.
2006-06-09 02:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by prettythugg1524 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the split permanent! A guy that won't stand by you and support you in this innocent a situation how can you count on him being there through a health problem..or any SERIOUS problem??????..You are young intelligent and deserve better than he is willing to give..He did you a favor..at least you aren't married to that JERK!! Move on find a MAN next time..stop picking boys...there are men looking for a woman like you..you'll meet one soon..
2006-06-09 03:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately wrong!
If all he is concerned about is money rather than you then he is a worthless scum!
Think about this;
What happens if something serious happens like you get hurt and can't work or get pregnant. Is he going to kick you out on the streets with a broken leg or a newborn baby?
You WILL find another job. Some times it takes time.
The same goes with men too!
2006-06-09 01:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by lovingfeathers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there,breaking it dowm,MMMMmmmm!8 years,out of work due to lay off?first hun! you know that there is such thing as unemployment benefits?while you do find a job it will hel YOU!?see.his name must be only on this lease or however?you are so correct on the above,not cute!cool!take such and swallow it i hope you are sleepin well,someone like that whom is doing the non supportive thing when it comes down to partners or marriage isn,t holding up his end,being there for the both of you in this time of need,either he can carry the weight by himself,or he,s ready to move someone in as a replacement,if carry there shouldn,t be a problem with til you get a job?the other,you stil have a prob but don,t have to deal with it,your choice?What i would do?is simple:hearing such,girl i would pack my bags haveing somewhere to go(friend,parents,or even a motel if needed,to get me together,focust on me,not to allow this to happen again to me lesson learned,the lesson leared will be it,s not who! you marry?it,s what you are marrieng into?i would scan all iles,to know my parter more,wishing oyu luck!
2006-06-09 01:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by sheena s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not cool. He's so wrong for doing that. Not very supportive is he? And to come to think of it one of the vows is "in for rich or for poor" Good thing you aren't married yet. Wow, that's like a huge slap in the face. You have every right to be pissed.
2006-06-09 01:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by Moon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just totally messed up. You should be getting unemployment if you were layed off though. All I can think of is to him you are not trying very hard or at all, which is possable. Or he is a jerk and it is better to find that out now hun, at least you aren't married yet.
2006-06-09 01:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt love you. I would get a new job and a new man. I think you need to be independent first though. Love yourself and dont depend on others and it will be easier to find someone who is able to stand beside you and walk with you into the future
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-06-09 01:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl if he is not going to be there when the times are bad then get rid of his ***. What a piece of crap. So I guess he is obviously there when its good but when it starts to get a little rough he wants to turn tail and run. What a little boy! Send his *** back to pre-school and find you a real man!
2006-06-09 01:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For better or worse...for richer or poorer.
Those are marriage vows, I know, but if he wants to marry you his intentions should be the same.
If he's willing to do this to you now...what's going to happen if something REALLY bad happens..like you are disabled or something? Is he really going to be there?
Take this as a wake-up call and find someone who will honor and protect you as you would them.
2006-06-09 01:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋