I'm so unhappy in my marriage, and have tried just about everything there is to connect to my husband emotionally and spiritually, but it's just not happening. Am I a complete failure? Do you think I will fail in another marriage? I've been with him since I was 18 and now I'm 31 and very very sad.
2006-06-08 18:10:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've tried church for a number of years, tried expensive couseling that seems to really go nowhere, but the same things I say already. I've pleaded with him to try to make an effort because he's away so much for work.
2006-06-08 18:16:58 · update #1
I've told him very seriously how I feel.
2006-06-08 18:32:52 · update #2
Sometimes no matter how much you try and what help you seek it cannot always help emotional connection.
Was with my ex-husband from 19 and got divorced at 28. Same thing we had no emotional connection or communication. We also tried everything.................funny thing is, I could never be happier and look forward to everyday now. I also quit getting my severe tension headaches just shortly after I moved out.
I have already found my soul mate---we have a connection on every level that is beyond most peoples dreams. So much so that we live 50 miles apart and we know exactly when something is wrong, even the little things!!!
It is possible--love yourself and you will be surprised at the miles you will go! Good Luck!!!!!!!!
2006-06-08 18:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by melinlove 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get yourself some help. Go to a counselor pastoral or other to figure out what is going on and what could be the problem. You sound very depressed. Just because you are having problems in your marriage doesnt mean it is all your fault or that you are a failure. Marriage takes two to make it work.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-06-09 01:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
failure is all in how you define it if being unhappy in your marriage makes you a failure than your looking at the picture wrong it only makes you smarter to know what to do when you fall in love again .but you have to give yourself that chance If you truly have tried everything than don't be afraid to walk away your not a failure for that either your just smart enough to know that if after everything you've done your not happy you never will be and you deserve to be happy as does he. Godbless you
2006-06-09 01:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so quick to leave , my wife was feeling the same way not too long ago, and I had NO idea! I woke one night and found her sitting in the dark crying and that's how I found out. In other words , don't assume that he knows , you have to talk to him and tell him your feelings. If you have tried to "fix" your marriage then you are not a failure, its just that it takes two to make this work.
2006-06-09 01:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by Oki Bound 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first marage was when i was 18 i was done with being played when i was 36 talk about being sad a lot but my kids made it worth while. my husband now number 2 is amazing we enjoy the same things and really like to spend time w/ each other life is to short to be unhappy
2006-06-09 01:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by kylergsmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reading "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman...it addresses that "tried just about everything" feeling. I've just started reading it but my bf says it's really helped him understand people more.
2006-06-09 01:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by blvdblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a choice of the heart...... if there is NOT an ounce of love left then maybe you should set him free.... have you tried professional help ? or a couples week end therapy ?? some churches do this...... if you have given it everything you've got and have tried every resource then maybe it is time to part...... but I would NOT make that decision lightly....... God bless
2006-06-09 01:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave, cheat, well dont cheat, my friend married 22 years left her husband b/c of the same almost reasons, she is now married with a daughter 6 mos old. happy as ever
2006-06-09 01:13:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 years is alot of time to just throw away and waste on a relationship. dont give up if you ,in your heart, truelly want to be with the guy dont give up without a fight.if you know that you will regret leaving him, DON'T!
2006-06-09 01:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by chris' baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define "tried everything to connect". Does he KNOW that you are feeling this way? Has professional counseling been sought?
2006-06-09 01:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋