im just so used to having a boyfriend who cheats on me and now i dont and i always have suspitions that he is cheating on me and i always get paroniod when he is with other girls even when im around! he gets so mad at me for it, what should i do? i know he loves me very much, we have been dating for a year and our feelings for eachother havent changed but im scared that if i dont stop being so paroniod i might loose him cause he thinks i dont trust him. what can i do to get rid of my thoughts about it cause i know he isnt cheatin?
2006-06-08 18:07:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes i think it is normal but you have to learn to trust him. tell yourself that he's not your old boyfriends. If you honestly believe he loves you and he is not cheating, try to focus on the good in him not the bad in others. Every time he is where he says he is, with whom he says, etc, He is being trust worthy. Give it to him. Trust is a difficult thing to have in people when you have been hurt so many times. But you have to try again. Quit waiting for him to disapoint you like the others. He's a good man and not all men cheat.
2006-06-08 18:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by justmyopinion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know exactly how you feel. I haven't come up with a real solution, but sometimes this is what I tell myself.
He is going to do what he wants to do regardless. If he wants to cheat on you, he is going to whether you constantly harass him or not. He's not going to be like, "oh, I better not cheat becuz my girl will be suspicious." He's going to do it if he wants to.
You have no control over his actions. Just keep in mind that the people who cheated on you are in the past. Learn from what they did, keep your eyes open and keep your mouth shut.
Give your man space cuz you don't wanna push him away. You know?
So realize that no matter how much you nag him, that's not going to stop him from cheating if that's what he wants to do. I hope that advice works for you. And if he does cheat, then as much as you wanted it to work, it just wasn't meant to be and there was nothing you could have done.
2006-06-09 01:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am having the same prob but weve been together two years and honestly its the hardest thing to trust someone who hasnt yet betrayed you... i say YET because it hasn't happened and probably won't but what i've had to do and what you should do is, stop putting the thought into his head... about cheating that is... if you aren't saying it, he isn't thinking about it... the other girls are there always! ALWAYS! they don't go away, and there are always new girls. My mom told me once: there are more women in the world than men, half of them are prettier and have a better body than me AND i am prettier and have a better body than half of the women in the world. BUT there is only one me, and if he can't see that then he is blind. He wouldn't be with you if he wanted to be with someone else. You may forgive but its so hard to forget~!
2006-06-09 01:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by a c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your insecurities are normal, you need to talk to him and let him know you have some underlying issues with insecurities from you ex, that you need him to help you get over.It's not going to be easy but if you work together you can learn to trust again and not be so insecure. He will have to play a big roll in helping you with this by being understanding, (not patronizing you) and do what it takes, if he's not willing to do that for you then maybe he don't love you as much as you want to believe. Love's unconditional, you shouldn't have to worry about loosing it,unless u don't have it.
2006-06-09 01:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by angelw/brkwingcrookedhalo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one you need to sort out in your head yourself. I would let your guy know that you have these concerns but also let him know that these are because of past experiences and not because of what he is doing. You already know that he is not cheating so don't let him think that you suspect him. Talking is one of the best ways to sort any problem within a relationship and maybe by letting him know your fears then maybe he can help you through. After all if he is the guy for you he will understand and help you.
2006-06-09 01:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by mind bender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to learn to trust and have faith in yourself. This isnt about him but you. You need to know that you are worthy of love and devotion from a man who wants to share with you and have a family.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-06-09 01:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋