how do i gain a girls freindship back when she hates me, i know she still cares but she is so stubbourn?

Question

she wont even give me the time of day , i really want to be just freinds with her because she is that special if all i can have is that then that is good enough for me , but see i messed up when i coudnt have what i wanted i acted really imature and called her some pretty bad things and ever since then nothing no response no nothing ive sent so many emails ive left voice messages, one time we talked and she said she forgave me but never heard from her again i really like this girl as a person i just wish she knew what this is doing to me , i need her forgivness to be happy , she i not be emailing her , leaving voice mail , or should i keep on being persistent to let her know how sorry i am , oh one more detail she is 38 and i am 28 please help

Answer 1

One thing that I noticed in your post was that you stated, "I need her forgiveness to be happy." My friend, you do NOT need her forgiveness to be happy. Forgive yourself first. Look to yourself first. Then when you figure out what you need and want then you can openly express what you feel toward this woman or any woman without going overboard. Currently, you are hurting. And obsessing over the whole situation is unhealthy. Find other things to do. Let go. The universe will take care of you as long as you are taking care of yourself first in a healthy way. I'm not talking about selfish pride, but more of a turn of the looking glass towards yourself. Forgive yourself dude. You are young with alot of experiences to explore. Go get them. And enjoy your life. As for the girl, you can still love her for the rest of your life. There will be none other the same. Others may come close. How wonderful it would be when you are ready to explore. When in your search of what you think you need, you will discover what you want. Take Care.

Answer 2

I'm stubborn too. But if someone had hurt me, I'll way things out. I have to see if you are really sincere; If you do what you say, if you keep your promises, if you do little sweet things to soften my heart. Flowers, chocolates, gifts that I want - I can imagine my sweet smile once someone offered me such presents!

But of course I'm not her. Do you know the things she likes, she's fond of doing? If she enjoys a book, find her the book she must be long wanting to buy. If she's into sports give her a little something which will remind that sports. A cartoon character will be so sweet too. Bottom line - know her weaknesses.

Try your best! If your best wasn't good enough, then maybe You are just Not Her Type. If this the case... don't be sad - we loose someone/something, but life EVENS out - You'll gain another. You'll never know what's ahead.

Remember this two words "Be Positive!".

Answer 3

Tell her that you messed up and need her forgiveness. Keep trying but don't try to hard or she will think you are stalking her or obsessed. If she cares, she will come around. She may feel that the age difference has shown by your reaction(imature reaction). Remember woman are more mature than men.It's a fact. She may not want to lead you on or have the same reaction happen. You may just have to except the fact that you may not beable to have any kind of relationship with her. Tell her you what her to be straight with you and tell you whether she wants a friendship with you or not. Just be prepared to hear things you may not want to.
Good Luck

Answer 4

ok... 1. your probably annoying the crap out of her so stop sending her e-mails and leaving voice messages for a while, 2. if you really do care about her and she knows that then she'll come around, and 3. don't push it, women are stubborn (i would know!), they think they have to teach someone a lesson about everything and they'll be bitches untill that lesson is learned... I don't know what you did so I don't know what your learning so you'll have to figure that out. Lay low until you do and when you do invite her to coffee or lunch to talk about it, not somewhere where it could be considered a date... let her know you really care and you don't want to hurt her anymore, it may still be hurting her. Let her know it hurts you to not be able to talk to her or laugh and joke with her anymore but don't make her feel guilty about it, she thinks you should feel guilty. One more thing... age doesn't matter. So good luck and I hope she will let you talk to her and she'll listen.

Answer 5

Give her flowers by her a gift let her know u care so that way she knows that u care.U have to watch it u just cant go off on a girl for no reason just try and talk if she dont want to she not interested

Answer 6

we have the same predicament dude...only i am the older one in our relationship...im 36 and the girl is 21..we still see each other but she only wants friendship.im trying to win her back coz i really am sure that she is very special to me as a person...im trying to win her back for quite some time now and wat you say is true..sometimes they r as stubborn as a mule..she wont budge,i can still sense that she likes me or rather she loves me but she wont just say or accept it..:-(
if only i can turn back time i would do it so that i can prevent things from happening:-(

Answer 7

Give up for a little while and see what happens. Sometimes you can protest too much. Give her a little room and see if she comes around.

Answer 8

sorry dude but your a little younge for her but if you really love her keep on trying that will show her that you really loved her

Answer 9

shes just a *****, or does like you and doesnt want you ta know? but how and the hell am i suppost to know?

Answer 10

give it up shes not interested.