how do i tell a best friend that i am starting to fall in love with her?

Question

like it says iam starting to fall for my best friend.
we hav been friends for about a year now and have grown xtremly close. iam afraid that if i tell her she will not want to hang with me ne more. what should i do

Answer 1

I know what you're thinking...if you tell her, you might loose your friendship forever...but if you don't then you could loose her to someone else.

I would tell her seriously and if the two of you are getting closer and it's not just in your mind,....then your outcome will be great!

Answer 2

Are you a boy or a girl? If you are a boy telling a girl that you like her then just tell her. The worse thing that can happen is that she will tell you that she only likes you as a Friend. Chances are that if she is hanging around you so much she likes you to she just doesn't have the courage to tell you. If you are a girl telling a girl that you like her it makes it harder, as you well know. You have to ask your self "if i tell her and she freaks out, is it worth losing her over" Since she is your Friend you should already no how she feels about same sex relationships,and do you even want someone in your life that is against what you are, if she is. that is a good place to start. Since I don't know if you are a boy or girl that is the best I can answer

Answer 3

don't tell her about the depth of your feelings all at once. When you two are talking, try flirting a small bit, see if she goes along with it. If all goes well, do the same thing for a bit. Ask her to go to the movies & offer to pay for her, little subtle things. If she responds well, tell her you have developed feelings for her & see if she has been feeling the same. If she has, then ask her what she wants to do. then go from there.

If she doesn't respond well to the flirting, etc (doesn't play along, doesn't make eye contact very open, doesn't say much, changes the subject frequently, keeps a good amount of distance between the two of you...) Then stop. & play it off as a joke, & don't attempt again. If she asks you if you have feelings for her, be honest..& calm..& you'll be fine.

Goodluck! if it's ment to be, it'll happen!

Answer 4

I don't think you should tell her unless you're both drunk. Because then she may not remember. If she doesn't feel the same way about you, you may lose her as a friend. Are you willing to risk losing your friendship to her? I would just stay friends with her and find someone else that you know likes girls. That way, you're not compromising your friendships.

Answer 5

its very delicate condition so handle it carefully first of all try to know about her opinion on u. even u can tell the problem to her girl friend and with the help of her try to know about her opinion on u but the mediater must a genuine candidate ok

if u get positive result then try to know about her taste and habits and try to convey ur affection towards her in indirect way initially after some time if u feel that she responding positively then u can express her about ur love frankly

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Answer 6

i felt the same way before i told my best friend that i like him but it all turn ok because this made us even closer but not in the girlfriend boyfriend way because he didnt want 2 ruin our friendship if we ever broke up. So just go for it u mite never know she mite like u the same way. If she is really ur best friend she will understand your feelings for her and she will do her best to understand you.

Answer 7

if she's truly your friend it won't hurt the relationship that you already have, things may seem a little awkward at first, but in a few days it'll all be back to normal. explain to her that her friendship means alot to you and you don't want to do anything that's gonna hurt it, but you need to let her know how you feel.

Answer 8

well,hello to you...dis situation is like the movies...in the movies,if u tell ur best friend dat u like her,she might jz freak off n it will ruin ur friendships.well,give dis a try, u talk to her n ask if she gt anyone in mind...u r her best friend ryte? best friends share everyting...den u drop hints to her and show u care for her...dis will gives her time n make her reliase who u really are to her..or if u want to be frank,say to her nicely,"what if we really are meant to be lovers?" den from her,u will get the answers n take ur next action...but if u both nt fated to be lovers,dun be upset..best friends are still cool but u have to share ur SPECIAL love to somebody who is much more SPECIAL in future......gud lucks!!!! :)

Answer 9

This is a risk you have to take. Telling her how you feel or not telling you how you feel. but i would say tell her. You will never know if it would of work or not. Just be honest and simple. Tell her slow and easy.

Answer 10

That's sweet. If she doesn't want to start a relationship, that's her loss. You should tell people your feelings. So yes, tell her and don't worry about what she'll say.