This guy is so called in love with me. A bug a boo to the highest. My sister (very close to me) died a couple of weeks ago..He has also known her for many years..We all grew up together..I talked to him almost everyday during her illness. Should I be hurt that he only sent a card, a week after her funeral. He is very cheap and stingy. I know it is the thought that counts, but even the card was cheap and impersonal..Dollar Store...I would have attended the funeral as well as sent flowers to him and his family... Some things I just would not be cheap about. I am not going to mention it to him, but I don't want to be in a relationship with him cause his cheapness would drive me crazy. I am a generous caring person. Love people more than money. Am I too sensitive?
2006-06-08 17:31:49 · 5 answers · asked by Feisty AKA Mrs 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He should have had more respect to both you and your sister than doing that.
2006-06-08 17:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by Joey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe is the mourning phase you're going thru that makes you extra sensitive.... or maybe he's not very expressive or as detail-oriented as you are, most guys are this way (they barely can tell the difference between pink and liac, or a hallmark card from a gas station one) but that doesn't mean he doesn't care about you and your deep loss... for him it was just another card, you know?? give the guy a chance, other guys barely give you a call or an e-mail to show their sympathy.
Sorry for your loss, dear... i send you a hug
2006-06-09 00:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by ma_isa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that your not going to mention it to him, but I think that you should. It's obviously really bothering you and it would bother me too. The thing is you have known him for awhile, so to save your friendship, just get things out in the open. He may not have known what to do for you in your situation. I know that you think it's obvious, but some people haven't a clue in those situations
2006-06-09 00:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by kewlkat103 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he sounds like a rig if you ask me. but maybe he deals with things his own way. like when my grandma died i didnt do anything i didnt cry or anything, but i lovd her with all my heart. i didnt go to the funeral nothing, so maybe hes the same way, but if its in every aspect of his life, i saw leave the prig
2006-06-09 00:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by carla_estrada18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...Maybe he deals with it differently than you, not focusing on the monetary items...
But nonetheless it only happened a week ago and you never know he may do something else....
Sorry for your loss..
2006-06-09 00:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by pingin_69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋