For the ladies... Would you date a divorced man?

Question

Hi, I am going through a divorce, my wife cheated on me. I am not going to date until the divorce is final, that is just my personality type. But I was wondering, given that most divorces seam to be asked for by the woman, do woman look at a divorced man as someone that wasn't good enough for another woman and therefore isn't good enough for them? I know woman are very competitive, I was always flirted with more as a married man than a single one. I don't plan on bring up my ex-wife and what she did unless asked as I hate it when people talk alot about ex's when dating. Oh and would you think it was weird if a man didn't want you to meet his kids unless you dated for a long time? I don't want my boys meeting every woman I date, I want to wait till it is definately very serious before they meet her (like moving in together serious) so that they don't become attached to people that don't work out. Would that sound insulting?
Thanks

Answer 1

well u sound really nice you sure u r real i think the way u r going at it is awsome kids come before any body and i would date a divorce man i am in the same boat u r in u seem real level headed

Answer 2

I am currently dating a divorced man. My ex was also divorced when we first started dating. I have never seen men that have been married before as someone not good enough for another woman. It's just a part of their past that has made them who they are today. Not everyone is as compatible as they wished they were, which I see as a main reason for so many divorces in this country.

As for not having your kids meet the women you go out with, I think it's a good idea and is NOT insulting. I think it would be disrespecting and insulting and hurting your kids if they did meet every woman you went out with. But, this also depends on how old they are and their personalities and if you think they can handle knowing others you meet or not. Only you and your ex wife will know this and can make those types of decisions.

Answer 3

Most divorces are not necessarily asked for by the woman. Unfortunately I have been married twice and each time I was cheated on. I don't judge men that I meet because I would not want them judging me. I don't like the fact that I have a bad track record when it comes to marriage, but at the same time I feel I did my part in the marriage. It was not my fault they cheated on me nor is it your fault your wife cheated on you. I also understand totally when it comes to dating and your kids. I have the same problem. I have been dating for a while, and I never let anyone near my kids. Then I met someone I thought would be long-term and I let him meet the kids. It did not work out, but my kids really did not seem to suffer from the breakup. I have a teenager, and I think he understands a little more about what dating is about. He knows that every person you date may not be the one. I think it is best if you talk with your kids before you start dating. Let them know that you are not gonna marry every woman you go out with. Kids are a lot smarter than we think. They catch on quick. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

First of all, kudos to you for thinking ahead about the welfare of your kids...with not bringing every woman you date into the picture. That's very responsible of you.

Second of all, no, I wouldn't be put off with a man being divorced. You can state the reasons why without talking trash about your ex - that always raises a red flag with women.

My next door neighbor is in the middle of divorcing her husband and I would vouch for HIM. He's a great guy (not perfect) but she's leaving and splitting up a family.

You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders...and you sound like a great father.

Just remember: There is someone out there who will appreciate you and take any vows seriously.

Answer 5

If i was single and looking maybe. That would all depend though! I feel you are doing the right think by waiting until the divorce is final before dating again but i also feel that you will need counseling and help for this too and take your time and get to know to woman or women you choose to date before even thinking about ever marrying again! To me it depends on what the divorce was over on how i view divorced men or women for that matter!

Answer 6

your really worrying alot about a relationship that hasn't happen yet since you didn't cause the ending of your marriage trust your instincts. Yes it's very smart to keep women out of your kids life till sure you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and you will only get better about everything the longer you are away from your x wife. i would say don't worry about women not wanting to date you because your divorced some young girls might judge you but mature women not old just mature mentally who have been through some stuff will realize **** happens to us out of our control sometimes. Either way the women that flirted with you while you were married why would you want a serious relationship with that kind anyway thats not an example for your boys she'll probably cheat that kind. Anyways don't set out on a misson either to find your boys a newmom live alittle you just been through trama let yourself forget have fun date different chics you deserve to forget and later you can worry about finding the one for them take a few months of fun but becareful because of disease. i got cheated on and have a daughter i am happily remmarried now but i had FUN i did all i didn't get to do before because i plegded my life to an ahole. Its really the best way to forget i understand that kinda pain! but you'll be glad it happened when your remmarried to a woman that loves you and respects you back if you don't sleep around or party to forget then work alot that will distract you Divorce is hard and hurts like **** but if you don't distract yourself you'll run yourself crazy thinking about it. you'll make it Godbless you and your children!

Answer 7

The question that you asked wasn't about her cheating, yes I believe you to be a very caring father for thinking about the attachments that could happen during dating women around your boys. If you were someone I was dating I would find it an honor to know such a caring father. There are very few of you left so the GAL that one day who ends up with you and your boys should count her lucky stars God Bless You , signed born2damromantic

Answer 8

To answer your 1st. ?. no woman don't look at divorce man as not being good e-nuf. But once in a serious relationship I would want to know why you got divorced. Not introducing your children to your women companions is a good thing. Especially when you really don't know them yourself.

Answer 9

When I get divorced...I will more than likely prefer divorced men, as they have already have some training in marriage. I just hope I'm not judged as "used goods" once I'm out there.

Answer 10

Your question should be asking if us ladies would date your divorced butt instead. Not ready, my ***. And to answer your question, no, Im already involved with another. Thanks for asking though.