I met a woman at the park and we walked and talked she was quite a bit younger then I but we just talked about things in general and kept each other company on our walk nothing else nothing more. Should she go back and tell her husband? should I mention it to my wife?
2006-06-08 17:04:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I go to the park almost every day and my wife is always welcome to come you people on here assume to much to negatively. And I have never before walked with a woman just so happen we got to talking and I hardly every see the same people at the park its a pretty big park and will probably never see this woman again.
2006-06-08 17:24:30 · update #1
I want my husband to be open and honest with me especially when things like that happened. It is where trust could grow more and more. Marriage, if not guarded by both couples, could be in danger with innocent acts like that. You might say that there is no wrong with that but most of the times, worse things started in little things. Be honest and open with your wife. Open communication could help to maintain a healthy marriage.
One more thing I would like to add. Are you and your wife are best friends too? If not yet, better make each other best of friends to whom you could tell your secrets, open your ideas and feelings, and share your daily experiences...
2006-06-08 17:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by sweethonesty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee do most of the women on here trust their men enough to allow them to go pee alone? We are talking about this man having a conversation with a stranger in a PUBLIC park! He never said they exchanged phone numbers or went back to the girl's place for a quickie! See how you all think, but women have this double standard, they would have the conversation in the park with the strange man, and if the husband or one of her husband's friends ever mentioned it, THEN they would be the one with the DIRTY MIND!
If you had never met this person before and it was only a general conversation and she didn't offer you something in exchange for money. If there is NO chance that you caught a Venereal Disease from this "talk", if you did not make another appointment with this woman to "walk" with her again...Then why did you feel so guilty that you had to come on here and ask? I am a woman, and that is the way some of us think. Did this seemingly innocuous encounter have more significance to you than you want us to know or believe?
Here, I am going to give you an easy rule of thumb...DO NOT TRY TO LOOK TOO INNOCENT. WE ARE NEVER GOING TO BELIEVE THAT! If your woman interrogates you about everything then there is a good chance that she may be trying to shift your focus off of what she might be doing or who she is talking to when you are not around!
If it was an innocent conversation then don't make a big deal out of it! If you ARE out making dates with women or having sex with strangers that you meet in the park, then I would say THAT is a problem, and you probably do not deserve even a suspicious woman at home. If you make a big thing of it, then you will always have to hear, "Oh I think I saw your "girlfriend" from the park today", or..."was that the girl you had "the thing" with in the park?" Take my word for it, unless you and the girl in the park somehow exchanged bodily fluids or plan to meet regularly to "walk" in the park, then no harm no foul. Do yourself a favor and if someone mentions it to your woman at home, simply tell her that you did not think it would bother her if you talked to a stranger in the park, and say that there was nothing to it!
Good luck, sometimes too much information is too much information if the person is a woman who is going to continuously bring up something that was innocent.
Now, if you need the woman in the park as an alibi witness for some reason, you will forever be sorry that you did not get her phone number! :)
2006-06-09 06:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by ruthie_msw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say yes, tell her! If its nothing like you said an innocent chat with another patron of the park then why keep it from your spouse? I'm not saying go into every minuscule detail of the engagement but if would be expected of you to let your wife know so there aren't any assumptions on her part. Try not to abruptly come out and say "hey i chatted with this chick today". I'm sure like most married couples you discuss your day, when that part comes up bring it to her attention. Don't flash over it "yeah my walk in the park was great today, started chatting with this lady about ... " and leave it like that. You don't want to take that walk in the park another day ( a day she chooses to be with you) and happen to run into that same women again, cause then your wife will start wondering 'where the heck you meet her' or 'how come I've never heard about her' such things as that. Keep your relationship HONEST, its ALWAYS the best approach.
2006-06-09 00:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by ToYsTeMpTer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question, then it's obvious to me that there is something uncomfortable and or uneasy about you talking to this woman in the park. My rule is if you have to question something that you are doing, then it is probably not the correct thing to do. When something is right it comes natural. No reservations, questions, or concerns. Lastly, ask yourself this, "How would you feel if this scenario happened with your wife and another man?" Usually, how it makes you feel; will probably spark the same feeling(s) in your wife. "Would you want to know?"
2006-06-09 10:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if ur Loyal. Don't tell her if you don't respect ur marriage and want more to happen then just talk. You will do what u think is right. We are only human. We are aloud to make mistakes. But if you know it's a mistake then it's plain wrong. It's hard to say what to do unless we were there to see how it all went down. To me it sounds like you wanted more. Or you wouldn't have guilty feeling. You don't know what to do and that's the guilty feeling. I am sorry but you should wait and be prepared to tell your wife this.
2006-06-09 00:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by J J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont see why you would have to tell your wife on the count
nothing was going on. then again being that there are alot of
problem starters out there just waiting to cause trouble.
so being that you were at the park, someone could go back
and tell your wife a complete different story. so by you telling
her, she'll already know. then she couldn't why didn't you tell
her if there was nothing to hide. still can't send you emails.
so have that checked out.
2006-06-09 01:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by sexy brown eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you often go to the park by yourself ?
Do you usually go for walks with women you meet there?
Why didn't you ask your wife to go with you to the park ?
That's why you don't mention stuff like that --- she will start asking those probing questions.
2006-06-09 00:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was like you said, nothing else and nothing more, then I don't think you should mention it. If she asks, then share, but don't bring it up on your own. It will seem like a bigger deal than it actually is.
Women tend to overreact about things like this. Hence some of the responses to your question. If it's not an issue, don't make it one.
2006-06-09 00:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_bella06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
would u want to tell your husband/ wife every time u had a conversation with another man/woman?
2006-06-09 00:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it would be nice you dont want to have any secerts between each other do you im sure she might understand if you just tell her cause one way or another she will find out and if that happens it will not be good.
2006-06-09 00:07:59 · answer #10 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋