My husband and I have been tring to have kids with no luck. We have been to the Doctors. We still can get pregant. I am so upset. that has all way been the plan and now I really don't know what I am going to do.
2006-06-08 16:52:48 · 11 answers · asked by cawhiteak 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I am 26 years old and I have been trying to have children for 3 years now. I have been to doctor and they said that I have PCOS. I have tried everything that is doctor has ask us to do. but still no luck. I really don't know what else to do. I know that we could adopt. But should I stop tring to have my own or just give up.
2006-06-08 17:14:01 · update #1
Well, if you have exhausted all medical options that you want to I first suggest taking some time to deal with it. Grieve, cry, be angry, whatever it is you find necessary. Most importantly..do it with your husband. Don't let this tear you apart. It effects both of you, and neither one of you are to blame. Do what you have to do together. Find theraputic releases together.
After that..have you thought about the obvious like adoption, and surrogacy and all that sorts. Yes, it's hard to even begin to think about these when you struggle having a baby of your own. But, what do you really want in a child..genes, or the love and nuture, and caring, and bond?? It's easier to grasp that when you've taken the time to really come to terms w/ not being able to conceive. So in short terms..take your time, go through it holding your husband's hand..and see when the next road comes, and turn down it.
Good luck with everything.
2006-06-08 17:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by smokes_girl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How old are you first thing? Second, I know you want a child, but try to quite thinkg about it. My sister was married for seven years before she had her first. Then she had three, almost in a row. Her and her husband were checked. Her husband had a low spern count. They said to hold off for awhile, then try . If it's on your mind all the time, sometimes it won't happen. When it comes time for sex, you might both think where is the fun. It's all gone. Sex is for having fun, and makeing children, but just try to relax from it. both from having sex, and thinking about making babies. If you are still young, it will happen. Unless there is a medical problem. If you have the money, both get checked out and see whats wrong. If no problem, then like I said, relax from worrying, and have sex for fun, and not to make children. If you can't have any, then try adoption, or if he can't, try sperm donations. If you can't, then try a surrogate mother. But, first and foremost, relax from it all. Get both your brains off of the subject. Try and think of other things in life. It should happen. Good luck to you both. I will hope and pray that you will have one. They are joys.
2006-06-09 00:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Goose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler! It goes into depth about people with your situation and how they used FAM to get pregnant! Maybe it will help you! The book goes all into the finer points about ovulation and what you may or may not know about your cycle and how you can get pregnant faster! I really hope this helps!! And if you really can't have biological children of your own, there are always children that need someone to love them! Maybe you could be a hero to a child that needs to be adopted! Good luck, though with trying to get pregnant!!
2006-06-09 00:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by krazy_gal04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would start the adoption process now. That will take all pressures off on trying to conceive. With luck, you may get pregnant. Your advantage is that you are young. Good luck. I pray you will have a baby one day.
2006-06-09 01:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's still possible for you to get pregnant, try natural birth control - you know, measuring your body temperature and all that to find out when you're ovulating. Any church would probably have this information, since that's the only kind of birth control they approve of. Other than that, I don't know where you would go to find out more about it. If there's a medical problem with you or your husband (or both of you), you can always adopt.
2006-06-08 23:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by justthisonce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest asking about IVF at your doctors office. I f this is not an option then you could always try Surrogacy with this option the child will still be yours and your husbands biologically. I am a gestational surrogate and trust me you are not alone in your infertility. You can email me if you want more info. I would be happy to explain the process to you. My email: christian_k1@yahoo.com
2006-06-09 03:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by christian_k1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plans change. Remember, there are people out there that are having babies and giving them up for adoption. Or foster children that need foster parents who can love and care for them as their own.
2006-06-08 23:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by Holly G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue to keep faith and do alot of research on line to help you rule out all negativity. i had two ectopic pregnancies and between the two i have a daughter however i almost lost her to several accidents while carrying her therefore pray and god will deliver.
2006-06-09 03:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by brownsugar24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adoption is always a option i think adoption will help you feel good it also helps they person you are adopting
2006-06-09 00:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by lil_babygirl_210 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are still young you will have kids just stop thinking about it so much
2006-06-09 00:24:59 · answer #10 · answered by sony93931 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋