I live at home with my parents, and my mother is like my best friend in the world. We just had a major argument, right after we finished planning some things to go do together with some other people tomorrow and the rest of this weekend. I'm still really upset with my mom, but I can't back out of going out tomorrow because of the other people involved. Plus, being mad at her is like being angry at one of my friends. What should I do?
If you care what the fight was about:
Our family dog is unpredictable and it bites with no warning - me, my dad, our other dog, guests, anyone except my mom really, but we've had the dog for years. Me, my mom, and the dog were all sitting on the bed making weekend plans. I got up, walked across the room, came back and sat down next to the dog, and it tried to take more than one bite out of me. It went crazy to the point where my mom had to pick it up. She said she was going to have it put to sleep and started walking to the door with it.
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2006-06-08 16:16:20 · 8 answers · asked by Jordan 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I beat her to the door and stood in front of it, and we argued for about half an hour over putting the dog to sleep with the growling dog tucked under my mother's arm. In the end, she's my mom and I couldn't just punch her out like I wanted, so I had to let her pass. She killed our dog about 2 hours ago, and I'm just calm enough to ask this question: how should I deal with it? I love that dog, and I love my mom. And right now, I want to say some really bad things about her because I don't think what she did was right. But I don't want to ruin a relationship with her either.
2006-06-08 16:20:40 · update #1
I posted my original answer before I read your second post.
At this point, with the dog already put down, you should NOT force yourself to spend time with your mom tomorrow. You're upset and so is she, and that's good ingredients for another fight. Keep your distance till you both have time to deal with the loss of your pet. In a few days, have a painfully honest talk about how that made you feel, and see if she can explain why she took such a drastic action. She may have thought she was protecting you from the dog and didn't know how badly it would hurt you to see him put down. But your relationship will never be the same till you can talk this through.
Make sure you have your emotions under control when you're ready to talk to her. You'll both probably get very emotional while you're talking but you want to start out calm and collected. Stick to how what she did affected you. Choose your words carefully (rehearse if you have to) and instead of "that was a really wicked, mean thing to do" say "it made me very sad."
I'd imagine it will take a long time to really get over this so don't try and force your relationship to go back to the way it was before. And make sure you allow yourself time to mourn your dog. I had an awesome dog for 16 years and had to have her put to sleep last summer; maybe your dog and my dog are now chasing each other around and playing, over there across the Rainbow Bridge.
2006-06-08 16:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by dcgirl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your dog because we had something similar happen. I had to put our dog down once. She became deaf and crippled. Then she started biting and snapping and I was afraid she would bite my stepson. Probably this was really tough on all of you.
Tell your mom you love her, but also explain gently to her that you made a commitment that she should not force you to break. I lost my mother to the worst kind of breast cancer there is in 1982, and we were very close - like sisters. I still miss her very much. You will be fine. You are all upset now. Just go tell her you love her before you go to sleep.
2006-06-08 16:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, even tho we dont agree with some of our parents decisions, the decisions that they make are based on years of living life. i know you loved the dog but your mom was just looking out for the safety of others. go spend time with her, she'll probably make it up to you somehow.
2006-06-08 16:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by migs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a dog just like that. He will bite all my family members except me. We nonetheless love it to bits.
Just go and have fun.
2006-06-08 16:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your mom if you could take the dog to the vet for a checkup; maybe its sick or in pain from something your not seeing perhaps an internal problem thats causing it to bite.
2006-06-08 16:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by gingersnap 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the dog went WAY over the edge. It really could need to be put down. Talk to your mom about this. Don't let this get between you and her, PLEASE.
2006-06-08 16:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by crystal89431 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off the Internet and go spend time with her.
2006-06-08 16:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by dee_wah3000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, this is just life...never, ever hesitate to say you are sorry to someone. you become the bigger person.
2006-06-08 16:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by omni1438 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋