2006-06-08 16:15:45 · 15 answers · asked by Donna g 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
If it his child let him be in the childs life there really nothing to do but accept the child as part of your husband and support him.
2006-06-14 15:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by icebreaker 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a really tough question! I think it is unfair on you for him to expect you to do this. If you wanted a baby I'm sure you would have had one of your own. Still, it would probably be hurtful if you said no, and could damage the relationship.
Has the mother of the child signed her over to him for good? Otherwise this could cause some future problems if she came back and wanted to take the child away. I think you and your husband need to talk about the situation with the mother of the child and get some legal documentation in place to start with.
As for you raising the girl, do you think you will feel differently towards her because she's not biologically yours? If not, then go ahead and raise her as your own, as she is a part of the man you love. If you do have some reservations, you should tell your husband this as it is going to influence your live in a very big way.
I think your husband should respect your decision either way, as it is your life, and it is not fair to have your life dictated to you by a child that you don't want if it is not yours.
2006-06-08 23:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love your husband then you should love his child as your own. No matter what if your with him then that child is part of your family to. If you don't want to help raise his kid then you shouldn't be with a guy that has kids. With her being so young then if her "real" mom isn't around then she needs you. However if you don't want her then you need to leave now that way she doesn't grow up and feel like nobody loves her or wants her. Good luck with everything and I hope that everything works out for you.
2006-06-08 23:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by cdavis257 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's asking you to raise the baby then you have already gotten past the part where he cheated on you. You forgave him or he wouldn't ask you to raise the child. The child is a part of your life anyways so why not?
2006-06-09 01:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by beanietara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
raise her, only if you won't later turn to her and say you are not my daughter...if you really want that responsibility then do it...did your husband cheat? where's her biological mother?? the little girl is far too young to know any better...if you love him, then you would do it and not question it, since you are you should reconsider your marriage all together....GOOD LICK either way
2006-06-09 03:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by proudmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not ? dont look at it like she is his daughter only , she needs ur help and support ..alot of people adopt babies , try to convince urself that u r adopting that girl and u will raise her in a good wy in this way u will satisfy ur self and ur husband and even god..good luck
2006-06-08 23:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by sasa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does that mean that he cheated on you or you married him while the other girl was pregnant? if he cheated on you i would be gone in a heartbeat. on the other hand if you new he was having a child and then married him i would think you chose the position to help him out. good luck.
2006-06-10 10:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by JAYNE C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband, raise the baby. She is young enough that you could do it easily.
2006-06-08 23:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Miss G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your husband and want to work stuff out? Could you look at this baby and be ok with things? If yes, then do it.
2006-06-08 23:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by shanonda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband, then accept his child. Where is the biological mother? If she isn't in the picture, adopt, love and nurture this child as if she was your own.
2006-06-08 23:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by jenepher402 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋