Cheating on husband or wife?

Question

If your spouse found out you were cheating and asked you to stop cheating, would you do it? and will they forgive you?

Answer 1

I cheated on my fiance back on October, and he stayed with me. There have been some rocky roads since he found out, but we've managed to pull through it with God's help. If my fiance and I had been married already, I don't think he would have stayed with me the way he did. I believe he would have left without hesitation. The phrase, "once a cheater, always a cheater" doesn't apply to everyone. If you're spouse is willing to stay with you after you cheat and asks you to stop, I believe that you should. If you choose not to stop, then you don't love that person very much at all and shouldn't be with them anyway.

Answer 2

The thing is why were you or him cheating? One of you would have to change to stop the need for cheating, this sounds easier than it is because over time people fall back into old ways, the person stops filling the unmet needs of the cheater and or the cheater goes back to their ways. I am not saying it can't happen but it is rare for it to stop forever (less rare to stop for awhile). My wife cheated on me 5 years ago, was forgiven and to the best of my knowledge stopped. She said I worked too much at the time and didn't give her enough attention (personally I don't think an entire football team could give her enough attention lol). Things seemed great and hurt feelings healed, then I was sent to Iraq and by the time I was gone for only 3 months she started again. I found out when i got back by checking cell phone records (I was gone for 10 months total). I am 35 so I have time to find someone else, we have 2 kids so that is why I tried again the first time but this is just too much and I have to call it quits. Look at your situation, if it is better to leave now (no kids and such) or to spend many more years in the relationship and waste more time. She cheated on someone else to be with me in the beginning, I was young and stupid and didn't listen to my friends that said "once a cheat, always a cheat" and wasted 10 years of my life. Learn from my mistake EVERYONE and stay away from people like this, it is how they deal with stress and just like an alcoholic it is damaging to everyone around them.

Answer 3

First of all i would never willingly cheat on this spouse! That is just not right! But if i were yes i would stop and try to work on my marriage with my spouse and i would ask for forgiveness and apologize and be remorselful and hope that with time they could find it in their hearts to forgive me! It is their choice to forgive or not to forgove . You cannot force them to do that!

Answer 4

Well first of all, I would never cheat on my fiance, he is everything to me. But if you are cheating, then why are you with the girl in the first place if you dont even want to be faithful? Theres no point in being in a relationship if all you are going to do is f*ck behing the persons back.

Answer 5

I wouldn't cheat in the first place but if I did he would probably forgive me and I would stop.

Answer 6

Be honest with yourself. How do you feel about your marriage? Do you want to say with this person or move on to someone new. Why waste more time in a deadend marriage? Why did you cheat on your husband or wife in the first place?

Answer 7

I wouldn't cheat in the first place, but if you wanted to restore the relationship you should stop. It depends on their heart it they will forgive you or not.

Answer 8

I would never cheat on my husband. Cheating is for people who are weak and have no standards.

Answer 9

no forgiveness here you cheat your out

Answer 10

I wouldn't cheat. My wife is to important to me, her feelings are to important to me. I respect her and the trust that she has placed in me to do something like that.