He pretended to like me. He spent time with me and lied about his feelings. I could never reach him at night and I've never been to his house. I suspect that he lives with a woman, but he says he lives with a male roommate. He told me that I would not be able to come to his house unless we were in a relationship because he's had bad experiences with women destroying his belongings. I figured that he was lying to me but I still let myself get emotional with him. Now I'm hurting because he doesn't call me. How can I get over this and not let it happen againg with anyone else?
2006-06-08 15:31:40 · 21 answers · asked by MsBossy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sleep with his friend, that'll show him. Sorry that is REALLY BAD ADVISE try writing down your thoughts about your relationship in a diary, and then burn it, or throw it into the river ir put it through the shredder, just so you can get the release and get him out of your life, so that you can move on.
2006-06-08 15:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
youre way too good for a guy that only wants you for those reasons. you need to find someone different. When you do, wait for sex and that will be the true test if the boy wants you for a girlfriend or a playtoy. when he first ask for sex (the new boyfriend) say no! if he insists and keeps on bringing it up, dump the boy! if he respects your decision, then you know that youve caught yourself a winner. im not telling you to not have sex until marriage (but i strongly support), but, just dont give it away to any sweet-talking boy. I say if you want to have sex with a boy you meet, wait atleast 10 to 12 months without sex. This builts a strong foundation of emotion and tests the boy's commitment to you. Most boys just want to get into any girl's pants. Never doubt cheating, investigate! keep in mind:
IF HE TRUELY LOVES YOU AND HAS TRUE EMOTIONS HE WILL WAIT FOR SEX!!!
2006-06-08 15:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your story sounds exactly like mine. I fell in love with this guy, And I trusted him with every ounce of trust I had in me. He never took me to his house either. I had been to his dads house when he was out of town. But I never went to his house. When I think about it , It makes me have this anger and I feel like I want to hurt someone or something. Cause after we split up , He had another girl at his house. I know now why he never took me there, he was embarrased to be seen with me, So he didnt want me to meet any of his friends. We were togather for over a year. I am not ugly , Im not ms america , But I know Im not ugly. I get a lot of compliments from people on my looks. Especially for my age. Im 37 and I still look 27 . The guy I was seeing is 27. So maybe he was embarrased because of my age. I dont know. But as far as getting over him, I still havent. I still hurt and its been 6 months. When I see him driving I get butterflies and I start to shake. I cant even find it in me tro go be with someone else. I just dont want to be hurt again. I think the fact that I know he used me for sex and money is what hurts me the most. So if you get over your guy please let me know how you are doing it, So I can try to. Because I want nothing more then to have him out of my head and dreams. Good luck
2006-06-08 15:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by myblueyesr2qt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider it one of those lessons we all have to learn in life. Sounds like you noticed some warning signs and red-flags... listen to your gut instincts. If something doesn't seem right about someone, and you think they aren't being completely honnest with you, don't allow yourself to be in a situation where intimacy can lead to something you will regret.
I'm not going to say wait until marriage before you have sex, because hardly anyone does that these days. But if you are going to have premarital sex, do it responsibly. Use condoms, be on the pill, be with someone LONG TERM before you are intimate, so that you know that you know who you are with. Talk about it with your partner. If you're going to be having sex, you have to be able to discuss it responsibly. Also, if you think you were intimate with someone who wasn't completely honnest with you, it's in your best interest to get tested, for your health and for your piece of mind.
Obviously you have feelings for this person, but you need to make a decision between being used, and letting him use you, and moving on. Going out and finding something else to occupy your time with can help you think about it less. Hang out with your girlfriends, go out and do things for others, spend time with your family.
Don't be ashamed or afraid to ask for help! If you need to talk to someone about what happened, find a counselor. You can usually get free counseling from groups like NELCWIT or any other groups that have resources for abused women. And, yes, this is a form of abuse. It's better not to involve your friends, who will probably know the person, because that just evolves into a nasty trash-talking gossip spiral.
2006-06-08 15:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tessa ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you since I have been there. Just be more alert, get your friends advice about a man... or have them meet him. I have a friend who has always been dead on when I discuss how a man has been acting. And then most importantly, listen to your friends' advice or at least give yourself more time to let the relationship grow. Men can sometimes be jerks (and so can women)... take care!
2006-06-08 15:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by oh, yes! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are setting yourself up for a lot of problems in your future... Learn from this experience and move on; but don't start thinking of trying to prevent this from happening again; as you will just stuff up your next relatrionship that way. Be glad that you're not stuck with someone that would keep on playing with your emotions!
2006-06-08 15:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by yyy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always try using a guy for love. If it works one way, why not the other?
But if you want something more practical, work on your communication skills. And use them. When you're in a relationship, communicate. Talk about your feelings and expectations, and make sure they're listening and talking about their feelings and expectations too. If they're not, something's wrong.
2006-06-08 15:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can get over it. Time heals all wounds. Gradually, find a nice guy, one you can trust. Keep an eye on him nad never let him know. well, unless he asks you for secrets and u r going to be married
2006-06-08 15:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by coolcat123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hel| did you let him between your legs??
You lusted after this guys looks probably and got burnt.
I wonder how many genuinely nice guys you ignored because they weren't "hot".
Get over it. Let it be a lesson in character.
Realize that he is a piece of sh*t, like most all player type jerks and kick him to the curb. Don't hate all men because you let yourself get played.
2006-06-08 15:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let a guy know what you expect out of a relationship before you get involved.
2006-06-08 15:37:49 · answer #10 · answered by sexy chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋