I caught him the other night using a vibartor on himself, and when I tried using one on him last night during a little you know what, he acted like he got mad and would not let me do anything with it on him, not even a little. When I asked him about it later, and told him that I had seen him using it on himself the night before, he got upset again and denied ever doing it. I tried telling him it was ok, and that it had turned me on, but he still denied it and refuses to have any part of it. Should I just leave it alone, or what? I know he was enjoying it when he was doing it himself, why would he not want me to help him enjoy sex more if he likes it?
2006-06-08 15:19:33 · 6 answers · asked by MeMyselfandI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why would he hide part of himself from me, we have been together for almost 11 years, and have always been very open about things.
2006-06-08 15:24:10 · update #1
I am a woman, my husband was using my sign on by accident.
2006-06-08 15:31:13 · update #2
he's probably embaressed he got "caught" and feels like it is not a "normal" or somehow shameful thing he was doing. where was he using it? thats important, because he may feel like his sexuality is threatened. Which could be where the sense of shame is stemming from. There are lots of articles, books, ect which detail why certain sensations feel good where. Maybe pick up an issue of cosmo that has something about "men's "g" spot" or related topics, and leave it lying around. He will read it. Or next time you give oral just use one finger to play around the back door area. after a few rounds of that try seeing if he says anything if you slip in a well lubed little finger just a bit. He is probably just afraid you are going to think he is disgusting or weird. take the time to show him that neither is true.
2006-06-08 15:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by **0_o** 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW this is a tough one. The best advice I can give you is give it a rest for awhile. In time when you are guys are together again, ask him nicely if you can do that for him, while you are together, she if he relaxes more about the topic. Right now he may be embarassed about you telling him you say him to that, not sure. But let it rest for awhile and let him think things through before you bring it up again, Good luck to you.
2006-06-08 22:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by pinkribbons&walking4boobies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes self pleasure is just that.....self pleasure. Maybe he is just ticked off that you interfered with his self pleasure. After all , masturbation is a one sided position and some people take their own personal pleasure very seriously. As long as you are still getting what you need and he is getting what he needs I don't see what the big problem is. Just let him know you think it's fine and that if he ever wants you to participate just bring it (the toy). Other than that let him know that it is no big deal to you and that you love him no matter what.
2006-06-08 22:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's hiding part of himself from you and it may take time for him to open up to you.
relax let him use it on you for now.
2006-06-08 22:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe back of a few days and try talking to him.
If he drinks....bingo!
2006-06-08 22:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by astroservus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So from looking at your other questions,are you a man,woman,or what?
2006-06-08 22:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋