our 13 year olds are triplets. they all would rather play sports then do their homework/chores when are looking for a punishment for them.
2006-06-08 15:01:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Woooooooooooooooooooo! God bless you! Thirteen year old
TRIPLETS!! I've just got one and she's killin' me.
Taking things away - electronics and the activities that mean
the most to them work. Ask them "What do you think should be done - what should be your punishment." This bewilderingly works like a charm. Try it and then do that thing.
I told my daughter last weekend what I was really feeling: I can't stand you sometimes.
Evil sounding, and it did hurt her. She told me later that she cried, but you know what, and I LOVE THIS CHILD TO DEATH and then some...she changed some behavior her dad and
I have been working on with her for A YEAR. She's been a little better consistently.
Who knew we'd be beggin' for 16 to come?
2006-06-08 15:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you definately have your hands full!Now that summer-time is comming why don't you have the girl's or boy's donate some of they're time at a local hospital or shelter.You never ask them you tell them.Don't say it like they have a choice in the matter.Whatever you decide you must stick with it.And don't put them together seperate them so they can't come up with any schemes.Make a list and tell them what they are expected to do around the house and if it's not done you don't want to hear it straight to there rooms.Take the t.v's the computer's and the video games out and don't give in.You haf to let them know you mean biz.They really don't seem like bad kid's but sound's like you want to teach them some responsibility.GOODLUCK!
2006-06-08 22:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am a teen and i don't like to do homework or chores but what i like is being lazy and doing sports. but see if these are the things that they enjoy take them away, being grounded for a little while can't hurt.
2006-06-09 01:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would suggest talking to them individually about it and tell them how you have good expectations of them. Connect with them on a personal level and let them express what they feel their priorities are in a non-critical way. If you make it a confrontation then they will rebell! They don't want to have you tell them exactly what to do... just guide with boundaries. After each person has had a say, compromise. Tell them that they need to learn to balance their life out in order to become what they want to be or do what they want to do.
Example: study three nights a week and you get to go to your practices all week. If you don't make all your practices then no game day!!! Have rewards for a good grade card... If you have _________ grade you can have 30 more minutes onto your curfew ______ grade and you can go to the movies with a friend free this month
NOTE: if they still happen to rebell, (as long as you communicate-listen!!, they probably won't) be firm, and unwavering...don't show them your frustration because they then will know it has a negative effect on you....
much luck,
let me know how it turns out! dumb_blonde10192@yahoo.com
2006-06-08 22:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No chores-no sports
If that doesn't work then No TV, computer, phone, to the point where if you need to take everything out of thier rooms until there's just a bed in there, so-be-it!
The bed can also be optional. Children need to respect thier parents because we are thier providers and a lot of times they seem to forget how well we provide.
It's not child abuse to take back what's yours to begin with. They will learn fast by depriving them of the luxury you provide them!!
2006-06-08 22:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by ♥§weetiepie♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away phones, computers, and all that good stuff and dont pay them for doing the chores if you usually do pay. Or you can not make them do it. And when they come in the kitchen to get something to eat and see there are no clean dishes, or on gameday their uniforms arent clean or cant find them because they didnt clean thier room or do laundry they might get the idea.
2006-06-09 12:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sis. Brown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They certainly sound normal to me. I would caution you on grounding them to a room if they share as you might end up with more fighting.
When my two preteens are 13, I will likely assign extra chores. Busy hands will keep them from fighting and getting into trouble - maybe.
2006-06-09 05:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ground them to their room(s) until their homework is done. Ground them to the house...no phone, no TV, no MP3, no friends, until the chores are done.
Grounding is the ONLY thing that worked on our teens.
2006-06-08 22:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away the sports until they do homework and chores.
2006-06-08 22:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my teens do the same thing and i just grounded them for a month and took away there sports untill they got there act together
2006-06-08 22:12:39 · answer #10 · answered by candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋