I'm so angry I could divorce him?

Question

My husband recently totaled my sports car. He promised to buy me a nice replacement. He said he picked out a lovely Audi for me at a local dealer, but I just found (long story) that it is his ex-wifes car who wanted to sell it. I'm furious! He not only lied but was going to have me driving around like an idiot not even knowing I was in his ex's car. He says what's the big deal? What do you all say?

Answer 1

i say "YOU MARRIED A MORON!!"

Answer 2

Ok, you have the right to be upset. He lied to you and by all means he should not have lied. But, I can understand why he did. It's his ex and what women would truly want a hand me down from an ex! But in reality it is a nice car and what would really be the difference of who had the car before you, once it's yours it's yours. No matter what you by if its not right off the lot band spankin new it was someones before it was yours. Talk to him about his lying. But meet in the middle, maybe go look at the car and see what you think. Who knows, you might fall inlove with the car and want it regardless of the past owner or you might hate it and want something else. Only the two of you communicating is going to work this out. And I would hate to see you throw your marrage away over something stupid like a car.
My mans ex wife and I are really good friends and have really looked out for one anohers backs. Just because they're the ex dont make them bad people. Be glad they are the ex or you wouldn't be where you are now. Good luck on whatever you do with this. I hope it all works out for you in the end.

Answer 3

Well I would say that first off, though you have every right to be angry, keep it in perspective here! I mean, how is your marriage otherwise? Are you there for one another? Do you do things together, have fun, etc? Are you both healthy? Have kids?Are they healthy? Catch my drift? So, I think the wrong part is that he lied to you and said he found a lovely Audi at a local dealer..... if that's what or all he could do, was to buy the ex's car, then he needed to be upfront and COMMUNICATE this to you!!! If the car was in good shape, good engine, all of that, then maybe you wouldn't have cared so much about it being the ex? I don't know, just remember what you do have, and well, right now we have two vehicles that are on their way out. I keep driving mine thinking the engine is just going to drop out,lol, one day, but you know what? I do know what we have in our marriage and all we are trying to do!!! I would say remember what is important here!!!! After going through hard times, hardest not knowing if our oldest son had cancer(at 15 years of age,ugh), etc and what was going on,he was in and out of the hospital, emergency rooms, surgeries, etc and well, it makes you put things, your life in perspective. So what is important for you?For the two of you? Good luck! Make a list of things that you like/love about each other, make a list of things that are bothering you, get it out, all of it, the good, the bad.............hope this helps!

Answer 4

You need to tell your husband how you feel. If the Audi is nice and has low miles who really cares if it was his ex wife's or not? But, if it really bothers you that much tell him and then tell him you want another replacement for your car other than the ex's car.

Answer 5

He lied. He lied about something that you should have been told about and the decision rightfully should have been yours. I wouldn't have cared if it was a benz, audi, corvette, rolls, bmw, whatever it was you still should have been told. I say tell him how you feel and go pick out your own car, unless you want the Audi then have it painted and detailed the way you want it and make him pay for it!

Answer 6

I'm with u! Make him buy you another car but better and more expensive. He sounds like an idiot. If he lied to u once already, then how many other lies has he told that u dont know about?

Answer 7

it is an audi... regardless of who owned it its going to be alot nicer than what the average person drives. but if thats really the way you feel why dont you tell him that its the thought that counts, and if he thinks that you should be like his ex wife, and drive cars that his ex wife drove, than why doesnt he want to be with his ex wife? if he only thinks that much of you, than he cant possibly really want to be married to you, can he? its like that comertial,

wife says "did you think i wouldent notice?" husband says
"is this about my criminal record?"
the woman puts her spoon down she had just got out of the drawer
"is this about my girlfriend? hey i'll stop"
the woman looks up at him with wide eyes
"is this about your ring?"
the woman jerks her hand in front of her face to look at her wedding ring
"hey, listen, cubic zerconia looks just like a real diamond."
and then she looks back at him, holding up the milk carton..
"you drank all the milk"

it was a got milk comertial

anywho, my point was that its the thought that counts, and when your husband only thinks enough of you to give you the scraps of his ex wife, even if they are expensive scraps, it certainly doesnt look good on his part or make him look like a better person.

tell him you'd rather not be compared to his has been, unless he wants you to be his next has been.

Answer 8

I think you would not be as upset if he would have told you about her selling the car and asked you if you were interested in him buying it for you. He must have known that you would not want it because it was hers that's why he didn't tell you. I think that it is a very big deal he shouldn't want you to have the car that she didn't want anymore.

Answer 9

Tell him how you feel about it. If he doesn't want to look at it from your point of view, you can do it another way. First, is he on your insurance? If not, depending on how long ago this took place, call the police and let them know that he stole it. Tell him that you will press charges against him for wrecking your car. He may change his mind then.

Answer 10

I think he's a dumba**, but all men have their moments. Apparently he was trying to get you a new car without having to pay as much. I'd be mad too, but not mad enough to divorce him. You don't throw away a marriage over something like that, however, if he's got other things goin on w/the ex, then kick his butt out....

Answer 11

it's hard to believe he has never done anything this shocking before i'm sure if you look back with your eyes open you'll see that he was a big liar from the beiginning if thats true which i'm sure it is a divorce is your only option. It will only get worst Deep down i'm sure your embarrased because not only did you get her used car but her leftover husband!