2006-06-08 14:16:34 · 5 answers · asked by ctownparts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think there are millions of couples worldwide that wish adoption was an easier way. However, if you stay with it, no matter what, it will happen. That was the decision we made versus continuing on with invitro. Everybody has their own personal journey, thoughts and opinions. I just think the biggest thing we realized when we adopted, that it is so much more of a "business" than it should be. I mean we understood the legality of it all but it shouldn't come down to money, and all of the stuff that goes on that holds up adoptions. When you want to do an international adoption, you think that in some ways it was going to be easier, however you then have the red tape of the other countries. When a country makes the decision to close down on all adoptions for X amount of time, or altogether, well it's just a sad commentary. Where are all of these babies, kids going that are in their system? Good luck to you guys! If you want to talk, or know more, please feel free to email me at bigdog711792@yahoo.com. Our hearts are with all........
2006-06-08 14:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am fortunate enough that I can have children, but I am a birthmother and know your heartache by speaking with adoptive couples. It is very difficult to adopt, not only because of money and laws, but also because like one person said, birthmothers often change their minds. I went through an agency and had an open adoption and it went very well. The adoptive parents had adopted another child only 2 years prior to adopting my birthchild. I strongly suggest trying an open adoption if you haven't already - I know it can sound scary having the birthparents know you, etc, but it's really not like that. I met the family and their daughter knows who I am, writes me letters and writes to my daugher, but I don't see them (except in pictures) and haven't in 9 years. I could of course, but it's a whole different lifetime and we live separate lives. I just like open adoption because it keeps the lines of communication open in case of anything that needs to be found for genetic purposes, etc. or even if she wants to get to know me someday. I am so sorry for any heartache that you've gone through - I pray it becomes easier.
2006-06-08 22:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right here! I went through IVF 3 times and I had 2 failed adoptions domestically. I had 1 failed international adoption (the mother decided she wanted to sell her baby...I couldn't do it). The mothers in the U.S. keep changing their minds, it's heart breaking because you know you could give that child a MUCH MUCH better life, but what can you do?
2006-06-08 21:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I would love to adopt if the process wasn't so difficult and expensive. So many couples (myself and my hubby included) want children very much, and there are so many kids that need homes - but the process is so hard/expensive.
2006-06-08 21:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BUNCHES AND BUNCHES AND BUNCHES MORE> It is such a sad thing that their are babies worldwide that need parents and no way to get them into a loving home quickly.
It is very sad that governments block help in many countries and let the babies get to where they don't even cry because they know no one is coming.
2006-06-08 21:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋