We have a daughter together and I'd like for her to have a sister or brother that is bilogical. Would I be wrong for trying for another without telling him?
2006-06-08 14:05:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Yes it would be and i was watching Dr. Phil the other day and this women did that to her now husband and he felt that he couldn't trust her anymore and that there lives were a lie and there was also a man on there that kept getting his wife pregnant so she would stay with him. What if ur boyfriend did that too u would u like it how would u feel about it. Don't do it just keep talking to him about it because if u do,do it and he finds about it, it could destroy ya'll relationship.
2006-06-08 14:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by damn_that_chick_thick17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there is NOTHING wrong with having children before marraige! We had a daughter and was married a month later! People do it all the time, so get real answerer number 1! Second, YES it would be wrong! My husbands ex did that to him and he hates her for it. By the way, we have the daughter though. It will ruin your relationship if it is not already bad... She did it so that he would stay with her. Didn't work. She turned out to not be interested in the baby and I have taken care of the baby since she was 6 months (now 5). Different story but the point is, it is never okay to do that without telling him!
2006-06-08 14:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by LuckyOne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u did decieve him and stop having the depo you need to make sure this is what you rally want and is it best for both of you why doesnt he want children yet are you having problems. if not u need to be sure that if u go a head with this its a secret and you cant tell no 1 just say it was an accident cause if he found out he would never trust you again and may leave you so can you do that and lie to him
2006-06-08 20:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not stop the depo shot without telling him ...... explain to him how important this is to you and why you think it would be a good idea to have another child at this time ......... you should really point out the key factors of the advantages of having another child over her being an only child .........try talking to him in a relaxed but related to him environment
2006-06-08 14:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by silent_crys_of_the_damned 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enough with everyone telling you to get married.....im a mother of 1 also and im not married and dont regret any of it. the only thing stopping us from being married is that lovely piece of paper you have to sign.....anyway, i am in the same situation you are in with the baby idea. my man thinks that we should only have one kid and then we can give her whatever she my need/want in life...i on the other hand want her to have a brother or sister. my advice to you (and what im doing now) is to have heart to heart conversations with your man about this. right now might be too soon for him yet a couple of years from now he might be ready for more. so dont stop taking your depo. getting pregnant while he things you are on it might piss him off enough to leave you and that little one and you dont want that to happen. give them time they (men) will come around....hope this helps
2006-06-08 14:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 10:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair to your boyfriend to deceive him like that. Wait until he is ready. Let him know that you do want another baby and tell him to seriously give it some thought.
2006-06-08 15:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by doc_is 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should sit down and have a real conversation. and for the commenter "Oh Boy" if you dont have anything positive to say then dont say anything. you dont have to be married to have kids. some people dont believe in marrige.
2006-06-08 14:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa S. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-06-14 22:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by uselessadvice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get married and i believe things will fall into place as you want them to. that is how my wife did me.
2006-06-08 14:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by micheal t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋