I find myself complaining about everything, to my landlady,to my roommates,to shopkeepers ,to lecturers,
I really want them to improve and I wont stand for less than I paid,
do you think this is normal?
(I am 24 by the way)
2006-06-08 13:51:40 · 8 answers · asked by RACHEL 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't think that there is a problem expecting what you've paid for but there are productive ways to go about this and non-productive ways. You say you are complaining which leads me to believe you are just whining at things, which is just annoying. You also mentioned doing this during lectures, which is just rude to others who are trying to get something out of the speaker. I don't know how many times I've been in a class with the person who will not shut the H e l l up. If this person is you and you ever do that with me in the room expect to be told to shut up I quit tolerating those people a long time ago.
Now one other possibility I see all the time. Are you addressing these people in some way to belittle them or do you consider them to beneath you. If so you do have some issues. You feel unimportant so you feel the need to address these people this way to make you feel important.
In any case maybe one or neither of these cases apply to you.
Ask some friends who know you a little better what they think.
2006-06-08 14:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by StingRay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you're not me?!? LOL This sounds exactly like how I behave. I KNOW there is something wrong with me so I'm assuming you have the same thing. I think mine is just anger management. I'm the same way...I won't tip a dime if my service was anything less than what I expected, I turned in a prof because he was AWFUL and I felt short changed. I think it's ok to demand what you pay for but it sounds like you and I take it over board.
2006-06-08 20:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Rick C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are negative. The negativity could be caused from illness, maladaptive hehaviour, or control issues, etc. If it were normal you would not have asked the question. If you want to change, you can see a psychiatrist for an accurate diagnosis. If you are opposed to that, try a meditation group, like yoga. You deserve to be happy. Good luck.
2006-06-08 22:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complaining? I think you should give it a rest.... It's alright to comment on something wrong, and complain on others to help them improve, and it's normal and ok as long as you will only do it to people you know at least. However, when commenting, expect others to hate or dislike you...
2006-06-08 20:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by -_- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not happy.
Someone has let you down badly, probably your dad or mom and so you have expectations you have to lump on everyone else.
The question is are you so perfect?
How do you stand up on a scale of 1-10?
2006-06-08 20:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by simsjk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are miserable because of it, then quit. If it doesn't bother you, then keep it up. You may not be making friends but obviously that is not your goal.
If this concerns you and you want to change, then try an experiment by giving one compliment to each person you want to tell to f-off. Eventually, your perspective may change.
2006-06-08 21:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by reality_check 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complaining all the time will drive everyone away eventually.
2006-06-08 20:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your meds.
2006-06-08 20:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by jacksfullhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋