Or should she give something, too? It seems to be a holdover from the times when women did not work outside the home, and the ring was a symbol that he was able and willing to provide for her. But our society is nothing like that today. Opinions?
2006-06-08 13:46:14 · 7 answers · asked by Kelly M 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No, I don't think it is archaic. It is still a demonstration of the man's love for the woman. Men are about actions, so this is a good way for men to show they really mean it. Words don't mean as much to men.
As a subset of my theory, men either don't tell the women they love that they love them, or some men go the other route, and say they love women when they don't mean it. In either case, it stems from the fact that men are about action, and discount the value of words.
Women, on the other hand, are all about words, and communicating with each other. This is why there is often a disconnect between men and women.
An engagement ring is a socially agreed upon action that men can take, and women automatically understand, so it is still a good way for them to connect.
2006-06-08 14:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by terraform_mars 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some things are better left unchanged. Although women have become very independent and times have changed to favor our independence, the responsibility should still be placed on the Man.
The majority of women go to work, and still maintain the household and care for the children, no matter how much equality we ask for, and no matter how many years go by. However, if a woman wants to take that step, more power to her.!!:)
2006-06-08 13:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually the ring comes from a distant time when both men and women generally worked at the same task - agriculture. To try and assign its worth based on modern gender politics is futile, since the ring comes from the Hellenic/Roman era that most of us know little about, and which had a kind of gender politics unfamiliar to most of us.
What traditions you honour in your own life are up to you; but know that tradition has value - it adds continuity, and when you have children, you will appreciate the value of continuity - it is a warm and wonderful thing when they adapt the things that have longstanding value in your family.
2006-06-08 13:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by evolver 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's up to the engaged couple. It's neat that the man buys a ring for the woman. And I don't think there's anything wrong with the woman buying something for her fiance either. But it would be wrong to force the woman to buy something if she was raised to believe that she doesn't have to buy anything in return. If there is any disagreement between the couple, they need to discuss it and possibly come to a compromise.
2006-06-08 13:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by ☼Grace☼ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it maybe archaic and the symbolism has things that just arent so-but dont tell my friend tiff who just got a one carat diamond from david that it was a bad thing-dont think she buy it-keep the peace old hippie
2006-06-08 13:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by bergice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a matter of preference....I bought my husbands wedding band and he mine and no engagement ring....just didn't think it was necessary
2006-06-08 13:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by laura468 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all about preference and what you prefer. You dont have to do what the norm does.
2006-06-08 13:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by AmoreMioDoveSei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋