What do you do if you love your boyfriend but want to be with someone else?

Question

I dont want to be with him because he makes me feel like crap but on the other hand I love him so much ! Someone help me put things right.

He makes me feel good sometimes as well but not very often

Answer 1

Simone... there is an old saying. If you straddle a fence, all you get is a sore crotch! Step over to one side or the other! By the sounds of it, if your b/f makes you feel like crap, then you should be looking to move on and find someone that won't. A man worth having lets you know AND FEEL that you are special, and important to them. So, if your current b/f makes you feel like crap, then take your dump and move off the fence. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well u don't quite love him, perhaps u have spent alot of time with him or u lost your virginity to him and u are fooling yourself that u love him because u dont want to think that u just wasted your time and/or virginity with him. But regret is something u have to live through life because it eventually turns into experience and knowledge for the future. Although u don't always have to regret it because u felt something strong for him atleast at the begining, and he didnt his mistreatment is the prove. And the fact that u want to be with someone else is the prove for u to see u aint inlove with your current bf. now that i've clear up the things u dealing with (the ones u mention on ur question) good luck with your choice.

Answer 3

Why do you choose to try to love someone if they are treating you badly? I do not get that. If you truely love him than you would not have feelings for the other guy too. If you want to be with this current man then you need to tell him how you feel. ALL OF IT!!! and explain to him why you feel these things. If he will not listen and things do not change in the time period you allow then you need to leave because if he can not listen and change then it is obvious his feelings are different. But you also need to figure out why you are having feelings towards the ex. Do NOT play your current guy or cheat though if that is nessisary you need to leave the current first.Offer the current to go to couples counsiling see what he says. You basically need to get things straight in your head and wait to listen to your heart because your heart is steering you in mixed paths. I hope this helps and I wish you luck in whatever decision you make.

Answer 4

Doesn't sound like you "love" your boyfriend. And what does "be with" someone entail? Are we talking sex?

It sounds to me like you don't know what you want, and like you don't even know yourself. Maybe you should lay off the relationships with the opposite sex for a while till you get your head on straight and figure out who you are for yourself. For one thing, you "love" your boyfriend, but he makes you feel like crap. That's pretty ambiguous, but just assuming that the fault really is him... Why are you with him? Also, no one else can MAKE you feel like crap. You have to choose to let them affect you that way.

You can not control others in any way, shape or form. The only thing you can control is your attitude toward that situation, and your reaction to it. What can you choose that you can live with in the future?

Answer 5

I think you should talk about it with your real boyfriend about the situation and then see how he reacts. If he promises to change for you give him a week or two to see if he really does.If he doesn't change his mean ways for you then he will never change at all. Then, you should try to date others or your other man on the side. I am speaking from experiance-- this makes your life happier.
NiNa

Answer 6

You love someone who makes you feel like crap? I'll need more explanations to answer this.

Answer 7

gurl we need to talk cause im goin though the same thing u is goin though right now so email me gurl so we can talk about what we need to do [e-mail]