Please Help me. I need to talk to my friend about his b***chy fiance. when should I do it?

Question

Here's the situation. I have a friend who's getting married but I, nor his other friends, think she's right for him. I spoke to his brother today and he feels the same way. She's very Bit**y and judgmental. She's also very controlling and her needs always precedes his. She also makes him do things she wants and lets his friends suffer and do without seeing him. This is a guy I used to see almost every other weekend and in the last year I've seen him maybe 5 times.

The Stag and Doe is next week and his brother thinks I should talk to him there, but that seems crass and I feel like it's something I should do face to face so I don't want to do it on messenger.

When and where should I talk to him?

I know it's his life and it's his mistake to make. If he tells me it's really what he wants then I'll let it go.

But I can't just sit by and watch him make a mistake. If it was just me that would be one thing, but it's not. It's his other friends and his brother that think the same thing.

I don't expect he will change his mind, but something still needs to be said.

Another friend married and no one felt it was right but no one said anything and it ended badly. I don't want the same thing to happen again.

Answer 1

Talk to him if you want , but I think its his personal life and he knows who is the right one for him .. maybe he is happy with her otherwise he wont marry her

do what you feel you should do ant tell him what you think but whatever he choose that's his life and you have to respect his choice

Answer 2

nothing you can do!! Do not stand in their way or else u WILL lose him as a friend..
marriage changes people.. often to better..
if u really cared for ur friend, u should learn to let him go and make his own mistakes..
let HIS family tell him that's ALL wrong and u shouldn't marry that girl.. because they have the advantage of blood bond.. and u can never loose a family..

You can always give advice of what to do to HIS family members.. but do not show urself in the picture..

Answer 3

At the bachelor party. This is the traditional time for trying to convince or at least bringing up reasons why a friend should reconsider. Be mindful of the fact that no one is perfect and marriage is an institution where the two (...just the two) people involved spend the rest of their lives together working out everything. Remember he knows her better than anyone for him to have made this step in the first place. He'll appreciate your concern. Trust and believe...I know. u r welcome (in advance : )

Answer 4

well should talk to him over the phone maybe tommorow tell him how you feel but if he dosent agree dont argue just say ok im sorry if you need advice i will be here then talk to him right before the wedding and say are you sure this is what you want and tell him you will be there no matter what

Answer 5

i think you need to leave well enough alone friends go and come but once you find your life pardner its for ever... why don't u start your own family and then you can join forces more what you have just said that's most of us Lady's if i think for one minute my husband is gonna **** and do some thing dome or stupid with his friend i don't let him go it not to be controlling but even i need to be put in my place from time to time so just leave them alone

Answer 6

Try to get him somewhere with the guys so you could tell him about the girl and do it before he gets married.

Answer 7

YOu know... He's the one that Wants to marry her.... it's his life... I wouldn't ... because you will probably end up just pushing him away. But.. yeah good luck