I have been having depression for the past years but the past two years have gotten really bad. I was dumb and asked my husband for a trail seperation back in November. I am not happy. He does not and really never has spent time with me. I want him to want to be with me. I go to him for sex and he gets mad. He tells me to wait for him to come to me. He has come to me maybe four times. This part of our life used to be good. I try the getting dressed up and emailing him things to get his mind on sex and he still blows me off. I am scared that he is shutting me out so it will be easier for him to leave or to make me want to leave. What should I do?
2006-06-08 12:54:53 · 7 answers · asked by worried 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you asked for the seperation and now you regret it? well thats life girly! the grass isint always greener on the other side. it sounds to me that he has someoneelse. get your self some self respect and find someoneelse!
2006-06-08 12:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by pinksgirlfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be calm. You gotta ride out the waves when life gets rough. b prepared for whatever may come. Most people hate to think about what they are going to do if they don't get want they want but if you accept what could happen and know what you'll do if it does life gets a little easier to deal with.Just let him know you realize something is wrong and give him the chance to come to you when he wants to figure it out with you. Don't worry about the sex it seems you gotta figure out the other stuff that is more important. Let him know you'll b there when he wants to talk but than you really gotta give him a chance.
2006-06-08 20:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by WISHFUL THINKER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a very good book for you. ITs called "Love and dont suffer" it describes the three types of love present in all couples. You are too worried about the EROS love: Sex. according to this book all three loves must be kept in the right balance in order to deliver a good relationship as the outcome. The other two loves are PHILIA and AGAPE. Philia is the love of friendship. Agape is the love of compasion. You should read this book it describes problems very similar to yours.
2006-06-08 20:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to sit down and talk. Get it all out. You must communicate. If you both open up, you both will know what you should do and will know how you both feel.
2006-06-08 20:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by Bob R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) You need to see a dr. and get on anti-depressants. They really can help you!
B) When your medicated and start to feel "normal" again, your thinking will be clearer and you will know what to do.
C) Please get help! There is no shame in being depressed!
2006-06-08 20:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your relationship is over, you need to move on.Dont stick around if has very clearly showed that he is not interested. your not a play thing why should you be there when he wants you but he cant be there when you need him?? move on your better off.
2006-06-08 20:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by badass1982 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he might have someone else
2006-06-08 21:43:34 · answer #7 · answered by keli2829 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋