i'm getting married in 3 weeks. my fiance lives 7 states away from me. (i'll be moving with him shortly after the weddding) we talk every night but he'll hang up suddenly out of no where and not call back for hours, or at all. or he'll say he'll call back and never does, and on weekends he says that's his time and not to call. But i'm at home with our 16 month old. i'm so confused
2006-06-08 12:48:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Doesn't sound good. I would not want to marry a man that didn't accept my phone calls 24/7 especially when I have his 16 month old, and anything could be wrong. Sounds like he is spending time with someone, especially since he wants his weekends free.
No man like that is worth your time, get out or get answers before you even think about marring him.
2006-06-08 12:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you in this position. Do not call him any more. Call a lawyer at once and go after child support NOW! And, I really doubt that you are going to get married in 3 weeks. This guy has someone else living with him, period. But you already know that, and I am not trying to be cruel, just real. You have a child to worry about, not a marriage. Now, I will translate what he is saying so you will not be confused.
Hangup: his live in has walked into the room
NO Call back: He hasn't found the time or the space to call you because his live in is there
No Call BAck: His live in and he are in bed going to it
Weekends: his live in is at home all day on the weekends and he doesn't want her to know about you.
I suggest that you call on the weekends! See who answers the phone...see if he can talk...and call more than once! You will know the score before the weekend is over.
Get yourself to a lawyer tomorrow. good luck
2006-06-08 13:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake Up Girl!!!! WOW!! The signs are there and I would be forgetting about him, chances are he is messing with you... Been through it myself before with hang up calls and saying that the battery died just to find out he had a partner with him, would promise to come and visit and wouldn't show said he got side tracked with buddies it was all lies all of it and then would try to do anything to apologize send flowers and that kind of stuff DON"T marry this guy unless you want to live a miserable life... He probably won't even show for the wedding might already be married... or have a bunch of girlfriends and for you not to bother him on the weekends what is he doing then? going out and having fun and going out bring others home??? Really think this through before it is too late!!!!! Best Wishes to you!!!!
2006-06-08 13:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but it sounds like your man is cheating on you. It is hard to say, but when men act like that, it isn't because he has something in the oven and it's burning. You should find out before you get married. What I would do is on the weekend go visit him without him knowing and see what he is up to. When you get their don't tell him you are their and just keep your distance and if you wait long enough, you will see that maybe a girl will come over. I hate telling you that because you sound so in love, but it is better to know before you get married because if you don't find out and think it will stop once you get married, it wont. Trust me! Either do that or take him to the Maury show and if you do that, tell me so that I can watch the program to see if I was right. Good luck and remember if he cheating then you are better off without him and you will find someone who loves you and wont hurt you!
2006-06-08 12:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be getting cold feet and having a last minute fling with someone. i mean why would he just hang up on you for no reason unless his s-l-u-t just walked in or maybe he's doing it while he's on the phone with you and he's fixing to climax. and on the weekends he doesn't even want to be bothered by you because that's his time??!!! whatever. he has "his time" all the time because you're not there. if i were you i'd surprise him one weekend before the wedding just to see. you've got to know what you're getting into.
2006-06-08 12:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by aj607 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest u better push the wedding back and sort that out...cos ur going to be married forever..it also depends on trust...if u trusted him with all ur heart...u would not be asking this question...so there is trust issues...so i say u look at what u are about to do...and see if its right in ur heart.
2006-06-08 12:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by obioras 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the wedding should be 3 yrs. away and not 3 weeks. You should travel to where he is unannounced. If he is hiding anything you will find out. If he is happy to see you and spends his time with you, perhaps you were wrong.
I would check things out before I married him if you have doubts.
Think with your brain...........not the heart!!
2006-06-08 12:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by Nana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is getting Married. Big change in a persons life. How are you been acting ?
2006-06-08 12:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by terry_holien 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would Oprah say????.....if you are having concerns...then you have something to be concerned about...run Girlfriend....lots more hot Guys out there a'waitin' for ya sweet chil'.....
2006-06-08 12:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It`s a tough question to answer. It could be he`s just nervous.
2006-06-08 12:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋