My husband and I were having a big argument, and I have been going through postpartim depression, so I've been a little wacky. I was so upset that he went to my parents for advice. My sister is over there at the time. She didn't have her car so my husband gave her a ride home. My sister offers him to stay the night, or in fact stay the night anytime we are fighting. I think this is odd, because they barely know each other and she knows my husband does not like her cause she borrowed money from him and never payed it back. I thought this was in poor taste, and tacky, even though she claims she would have stayed with a friend if he had stayed at her house. Am I wrong? Also that same day I had asked her if I could stay with her, cause I didn't want to be alone. She said yeah, I guess, but had a put out look on her face, which showed that she didn't really want me too. Also he didn't end up staying there and said he thought it was wierd too.
2006-06-08 12:40:10 · 14 answers · asked by sky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes that is kind of weird, and I would most definitely be upset if my sister asked my husband to stay over, and if anytime he needed to get away, he could stay by her. It may have been a nice gesture, but it seems almost suggestive and inappropriate, especially if you asked her if you could stay over and she said "I guess". She should be more sympathetic to your situation, and support you at this time, and if their are any sides that need to be taken (whether you are right or he is wrong) it should be yours!
Let her know how hurt you are by what she did, and you would hope that she wasn't trying to suggest anything more than just a place to stay. You may never know, but be straight up with her, I have heard stories where things like this happen, and your husband if he does go by her is in a vulnerable state so anything could happen! (even if it seems weird to him)
So be careful, and even though she is your sister there are limits and she needs to know that!!
2006-06-08 12:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 24⤊ 6⤋
Feelings don't come from the logical or rational part of our brain. They aren't "right" or "wrong," they just are. Personally, I think the key is being open and genuine about them. Sometimes negative feelings like anger come up because we don't feel comfortable talking about how we feel deep down -- threatened, jealous, hurt, betrayed, etc. So rather than asking whether you "should" be angry, I'd advise you to look deeply into your feelings -- to make sure you understand why you're feeling what you are.
2006-06-08 19:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before this bru haha gets any farther out of control you need to see your DR and get the post partum treated so you can reason it out. Ask your mother how she feels about what the sister offered, that should give you a clearer picture of the reality of it.
I feel sorry for you post partum is hard sometimes. Get it treated.
2006-06-08 19:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sister need a man of her own and ur relationship problem should be worked out by u and ur husband. family breaks up 99.9% of relationship.let him sleep on the chair not out the house their is a chance he will bring u back something with no cure.
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2006-06-08 19:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by melissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definately let her know that it is inappropriate for her to ask your husband to stay over. Set your boundaries, and watch out for her.
2006-06-08 19:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl i would be very mad but just talk to her about it tell her that u didnt like the fact that she did that okay
2006-06-08 19:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by Jazie09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch her closely she might be jealous of you and try to mess things up good luck
2006-06-08 19:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by texman03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id be pretty pissed. talk to her about it, let her know that it bugs you and it hurt you that she didnt seem more willing to help you out when you needed a place to stay.
2006-06-08 19:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Hez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be angry but talk to her rationally tell her how she hurt you and let her explain herself. if you don't like her answers tell her.you should have a place on her couch before your hubby. also your hubby shouldn't be going to your family with your problems, he should be talking them out with you.
2006-06-08 20:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you get over the babyblues kick her a$$. she really has some ba11s to put the make on your man.
2006-06-08 19:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋