I recently met my EX again(Randy). He's an architect, funny,cute and happy-go lucky guy. I thought he had no straight plans with his life then, so I married Joey, the serious,nice cute guy who is in the military. However, Randy got married too with a young flight attendant, he said she's always away cus of her job. Years passed, we were stationed overseas and until recently, Randy and I met again. He's really doing good with his life now, he's got a lot of great projects. I have to admit I miss him so much and he said he miss me too and He fessed that he really cried when I left him. I asked if he cursed me because I left him, he said he loves me, how can he do that? He said he will still love me even if I already have 10 kids!! He always makes me laugh!! Now, his friend owns a nice vacation place, and he's asking me if I can go, for a day or 2. I don't plan on cheating my husband, I just want to be with randy for old time's sake, (just like what he said). should i go?
2006-06-08 11:30:41 · 23 answers · asked by KAKTUSBUTT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if u want to play around his head yes if u think something more will happen no
2006-06-08 11:33:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old times sake WOULD be cheating on your husband. It would be emotionally devastating to your husband and very detrimental to your marriage. Also, if Randy is asking you to go, you can bet he has more on his mind than old times sake. (After all, he made it a point to tell you that his wife is away on her job all the time.) The past is the past. Tell Randy you were glad to run into him again, and then run the other way. If you find this hard to do, just imagine how you would feel if the shoe were on YOUR foot and your husband wanted to leave town with an ex-girlfriend.
2006-06-08 18:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you don't think that you will cheat on your husband if you go it will happen. Plus, if he only wants to spend time with you then why is he trying to get you away from your husband? He might be a great guy but it sounds like he has a different reason for getting you away. Sorry.
2006-06-08 18:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by white_wolfangel86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so...putting yourself in this kind of situation is quite sticky. If you want to be friends with him, go out for coffee in the afternoon - the key is to do things outside during the day. That's innocent. Going out at night or for that matter on a trip somewhere is just asking for trouble, no matter how much you miss each other and say it's just as friends. Would you want your husband to do this with his ex? Probably not...put yourself in his shoes.
2006-06-08 18:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jacinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!
why do you want to put yourself in a situation like that? you know something will happen and that something will be YOU cheating on your husband!
be honest with yourself, do you want to be with him, because you still have feelings for him, of because you are curious?
anyway what ever the answer is , the fact is that you want to see him and the fact is that you are gonna hurt someone great, your husband.
remember the reasons why you are still married, and think if you want to mess that up for someone you don't know anymore???
2006-06-08 18:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by sexychia35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have only one thing to say to you: DO WHAT YOU BELIEVE IS BEST FOR YOURSELF! dont think in no one but you right now. If you feel happier with Randy then divorce your husband and tell him you just dont think its going to work out and explain about your feelings of Randy. Its better to leave him even if its hurts then to cheat on him and him find out one day. The truth may hurt sometimes but do you really think you should be woth soemone you dont want to be with? didnt think so. do what you believe is best. I wish you luck!
2006-06-08 18:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Destiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well mabe u can take joey w/ u so that u wont get the urge 2 cheat &u can still hang w/ randy 4 oid times sake.
2006-06-08 18:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure as long as you don't cheat I would make sure it was OK with your husband just tell your husband and explain about randy or if you don't think he will understand then just go.
2006-06-08 18:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! unless u r planning 2 cheat on your husband. and don't say your not cause the words going away, 2 days, and ex-bf = SEX u know as well as I. Your mind is saying no now, but your hormones will be sayin YES, YES, YES later. Think about it!!!
2006-06-08 18:36:02 · answer #9 · answered by tsclark06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you kidding? Not us.....just yourself. Your..." buddy" is going to try and get in your pants 1st chance he can. Do not go! Think about it, how would you feel if your hubby took off for a weekend with an old g/f. (Don't worry honey we are sleeping in the same bed but i won't touch her! yeah right!) Cheating hurts..if you love your hubby stay at home, don't act like a dog in heat........
2006-06-08 18:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. don't go. if you have to ask, then deep down there's something in you that whats to be with him on more than just a friendship level. he's asking you to go away with him, he's playing for keeps, laying everything on the table. if you are happy with your husband, don't go. if you're not happy with your husband and the two of you can't work things out, separate, and/or divorce, and then you are a free agent! but don't disrespect your husband.
2006-06-08 18:36:09 · answer #11 · answered by Shuggah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋