I'm a married woman. This is not acceptable. It is not just him. I remember feeling this ambiguity with guys I fooled around with before him. It's not a complete lack of libedo; I seem to be interested in talking to guys about it. I have taken to "chatting". I love my husband and beyond this there are no problems in our marriage.
2006-06-08 11:29:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry, but you do have a big problem. Modern people like to down play the sex importance...but the divorce courts are full of cases because one, or both are getting the not so important sex outside the marriage.
Chatting is fine, but it may be causing you sub-consicious problems. See a Doctor, Counselor and open communication lines with your husband.
and If you're looking for another chat partner...let me know.
2006-06-08 11:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by theoldguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, try to steer away from TV, the computer, and media. I read a study that said pleople who watch TV every night have sex less than those that don't. It also went on to say that shows like CSI with graphically violent images kill the sex drive in couples. For some reason, if you watch TV news your are more likely to have sex than a violent show. I think the main thing is just spending time with your loved one without the distractions of society around. Just sit and talk, make dinner together, play a game, whatever, just do it together.
2006-06-08 18:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Darby L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that you are dealing with some guilt feelings regarding sex? This is a reaction typical of people who have grown up in very strict and often very religious families. They tend to like the idea of sex but when it gets close or happens they start pulling back and that guilt replaces their desire. I think you could use some counseling to help you deal with this issue because it sounds like it is mostly a mental problem.
2006-06-08 18:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're experiencing this life long doubtfulness about sexual morality then is it possible your sexual fantasies are of more fear to you in reality than in your mind? Is it possible that you married your husband because you felt safe in the knowledge that his sexual morality would never place you in the position of having to realistically explore your fantasies and yet you yearn for that exploration?
2006-06-08 18:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get yourself to a qualified sex therapist. Seriously.
2006-06-08 18:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by jackmack65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes medications can kill your libido. Talk to your doctor.
2006-06-08 18:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by MornGloryHM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you have no real sexual desire for these men
2006-06-08 18:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by dracopi24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM ..me now for more advices
2006-06-08 18:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_32m2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you dont want to you shouldnt have to.
2006-06-08 18:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋