Here’s the story. My wife and I (I am a 26 year old male) moved to a foreign country for a year. She got a job as a teacher. We met allot of interesting, free spirited people while we were there. I had to go back to the states a few months early to get us set up with a job and apartment. I get a call from her today and she tells me they had a crazy drunken party last night, but I detected in her voice that she had something to tell me and that I might not be happy about what I hear. She tells me people started getting naked 3 guys 3 girls (including her). Anyway, she made out with 2 girls (first time in her life). She has told me in the past she was not interested in girls. She spent most of the day stressing out over what happened and how I would respond. My ? is....should I consider this cheating? Should I be angry? Should I be stoked? I’m just a little confused...let me know what you think. Oh by the way I would never hook up with a guy so it’s hard for me to understand.
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2006-06-08 11:13:28 · 24 answers · asked by JBgotaquestion? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
are u a moron? she is only telling you part of the story. people don't just get drunk, get naked and only make out..you need to set up an appointment with Maury Povich for a lie dectector test.
2006-06-08 11:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by zzzzz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can tell you how you should feel, it is more of a question respective to your beliefs and what your acceptance level is in your relationship. To me if you were hanging out with these people or similar people before you left and stuff like this was going on even though she wasn't getting really involved before then you shouldn't be that surprised or upset. On the other hand if that isn't the case then I would be more upset about naked men around her than her kissing a girl. I think you need to talk things through with her and get not just the story but her view and feelings on things without you being judgmental of her. Then talk about how you feel and why, and then determine how this affects your relationship and future together.
2006-06-08 18:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things happen. Sometimes under stress women turn to other women and wind up together. BUT...a drunken party with 3 men???? I'd definitely suspect that although she might have woke up with 2 women, a few men enjoyed the trip to the "Y" before sleepy time came. Time to do some big time communication.
2006-06-08 18:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by theoldguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a slut, I think she was wrong for doing this, especially since you were not there. I think that yes this is cheating, it does not matter if it is with a man, or a woman or in her case women....it is cheating. Also she was naked with other men? What kind of woman did you marry? How do you know that she did not sleep with one of them? I would not stand for that crap, sorry. I think she is a whore. I think that if she wanted to experiment, she should have at least had the decency to wait for you, not wait until you were not around to do it. Like I always say, I ******* hate cheaters!!!
2006-06-08 18:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by somechick25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be upset and it is cheating. If you were making out with two guys your wife would most likely be pissed off and disgusted. Why should it be different for you? I'm sure being drunk was a major factor, she probably shouldn't have put herself in that position anyway. There is a difference in being free-spirited and being immature and unloyal to those you love.
2006-06-08 18:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Cheating is any act, with female or male,that she is engaging with sexually. If she can't handle her alcohol-tell her that you don't want her to drink anymore.
If she was so drunk that she did such unusual thing for her do you really think that the three guys there were just sitting naked on the side and watching? She had sex with them as well.
2006-06-08 18:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be stoked it asnt a guy!! Be pissed it happened at all. But bottom line she did tell you. She could have kept it a secret. GIve her that much. Just talk to her. Thats all you can do!
2006-06-08 18:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you should have a very long conversation with her aboutthat evening and ask her does she have an attraction to other women. I mean you did MARRY her for BETTER for WORSE and all that.. But, maybe it was the brew talking and making her go crazy BUT, then she really shouldnt remember that evening. Still ALLOW YOURSELF TO LOVE HER SHE COULD OF LIED , OR KEPT IT TO HERSELF. But she didnt she was open and honest. Talk it out please dont duke it out.
2006-06-08 18:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by remyumredd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chicks are different we are not as discussed about kissing the same sex as males. I would feel a bit uncomfortable if I were far away but if she like a little girl on girl action every once in awhile...You might like to watch
2006-06-08 18:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should be VERY VERY pissed off at her and i think you should let her know how you feel. YES consider this an affair weather with a man or woman she broke those vows of marraige. good luck
2006-06-08 18:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋