The way he is comes off cold and hes not very sensitive. He never really gives complaments. He has a smart mouth but thats just how he comes across. I am the type of woman who needs to feel wanted and i just dont feel that way with him. I know he loves me and hes a good dad. we have been together for four years and its starting to get to me.Dont get me wrong I have a smart mouth to but Iam much more sensitive .
2006-06-08 11:00:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if you've talked to him about the things that he does that hurt you and he doesn't seem to care, then you should leave him. But if you haven't, then try talking to him-let him know that he hurts you when he acts cold and insensitve. If he truly loves you he will change his ways, if not then don't walk to the door, run! Good luck.
2006-06-08 11:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 2⤋
My ex and i had been pals earlier than we dated and now we are "neighbors" over again nevertheless it's simply no longer the identical. I'm never blissful speakme to him due to the fact i am indignant that he broke my heart! If he would simply acknowledge this and as a minimum pretend to be sorry then i would be ready to get over it. One more man handled me like trash and i am tremendous pissed at him. Good I ran into him at a bar and he tried to behave like everything is cool and speak to me and it was once ridiculous. If he would just ask for forgiveness and renowned that what he did used to be so so so so $hitty then I feel we could regularly be buddies! So on the grounds that what you feel is anger then the one approach which you could be buddies with the ex is to clear the air. You would have got to be fully honest and tear down your partitions, on account that it can be the one method he'll tear down his. Tell him how you believe and if he is a tight man or woman then he's going to speak in confidence you considering that i'm definite he has feelings that he is kept from you too. Guys are like us on the within and they have got emotions and sadness too however they don't seem to be very likely to come out on their own and share them with you. So speak to him and if it really works you two would fairly join and suppose better. But when he's complex then you are not meant to be buddies.
2016-08-08 21:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I have been peers earlier than we dated and now we're "peers" all over again however it is simply now not the identical. I am not ever completely happy speakme to him seeing that I am irritated that he broke my center! If he might simply recognize this and a minimum of faux to be sorry then I might be competent to recover from it. Another man dealt with me like trash and I am fantastic pissed at him. Well I bumped into him at a bar and he attempted to behave like the whole lot is cool and speak to me and it was once ridiculous. If he might simply make an apology and recognize that what he did was once so so so so $hitty then I suppose we might mainly be peers! So given that what you're feeling is anger then the one approach you'll be peers with the ex is to transparent the air. You'd have got to be totally sincere and tear down your partitions, seeing that it is the best approach he's going to tear down his. Tell him the way you suppose and if he is a tight character then he'll speak in confidence you seeing that I'm definite he has emotions that he is stored from you too. Guys are like us at the within and they have got feelings and disappointment too however they are not most likely to come back out on their possess and percentage them with you. So speak to him and if it really works you 2 might relatively attach and suppose higher. But if he's complicated then you are now not intended to be peers.
2016-08-20 09:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it sure is especially if he did not realize he was doing wrong and hurting you in any way. Talk to him be honest with him and tell him how you feel. I am sure he will change to try to please you and to love you better. He sounds like a great guy and a wonderful dad so hold on to him! I wish you both the best! Look at it this way if you made a mistake and messed up would you want him to forgive you for it or not.... Put yourself in his shoes and do what you would want him to do for you if the shoe was on the other foot! Forgivenss is a choice and very important in any relationship or marriage!
2006-06-08 11:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my boyfriend and I told him time and again how I felt ......at first he said he understood and would try to do better. Now I am married to him and I can tell you ....they never change no matter how hard they try...it is the core of their being. If you are not happy and cant accept the way things are now, then definately move on you are waisting your time. In fact after marriage it became worse. I have been shut down time and again for expressing my feelings about this to him. So much so it has damaged my self esteem and I am miserable daily. Please hear my warning....if it is not everything you desire....move on! You deserve more than that.
2006-06-08 12:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by momkmmt4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't even realize he is hurting you then you can't really be angry at him. You need to talk to him and tell him how he acts is hurting you. Just be honest with him and tell him that you don't feel wanted and you need to know that he wants and needs you. Bring your feelings to his attention and see how he reacts - if he doesn't make an effort to change or be more sensitive then there is a problem. But, until he knows how you feel you can't really hold him accountable.
2006-06-08 11:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is because you are female! Men are not ever as sensitive, and alot of times women blow things way out of the context they were said in. Dont be so sensitive, sometimes we have a tendency of not thinking before we speek.
2006-06-08 11:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, impossible. Leave him, divorce him today. Take the kids and never let him see them again. Take the car, the house, the wall paper off the wall, take the phone so he can't make no calls. Clean out the bank account and leave him cold. That will show him!
(is this what you wanted to hear...well, you heard it, now what?)
2006-06-08 11:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always possible to forgive someone, if you choose to do so. You sound as if you are wanting someone to tell you that it is okay to leave him, and it is okay if that is what you want. Feeling wanted is something everyone needs, even those who refuse to admit it. Just remember that whether you choose to leave and move on, or stay and forgive, be a mature adult about it.
2006-06-08 11:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should jump the gun, like divorce him, yet anyways. i think that you should talk to him and tell him how you feel and see what he says. that is really the only thing you can do. and if that doesnt work, then you will either have to deal with it or divorce him. so seperate or something. but i think you should just talk to him about it and he will understand.
2006-06-08 11:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋