i am married my husband would be on the computer then wake me up do his business then back to the computer. how do you do it the right way and make it feel good. believe me i really dont know
2006-06-08 10:52:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
he dont want to fully be with me only the computer
2006-06-08 11:00:51 · update #1
i have tried everything to get him away and he refuses to be with me
2006-06-08 11:13:46 · update #2
first of all you need Intimacy! making love when your married shouldn't be like a job where he wakes you up to "preform your duty" there should be fore play most of you need to discover what each of you like and dislike and the way your going to do that is leave the computer out of the equation and plan a romantic evening with just the two of you and discover the power of intimacy
2006-06-08 11:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by javid_tanya 1 · 7⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really sound like to me that the problem is with you - I think your husband is the problem. What the heck - why do you two not go to bed together anyway? What is he doing on the computer that urges instant sex and then why does he go back to the computer? How old is your husband? The key to doing it the right way and making it feel good lies with both of you - you need a compasionate man that will take his time with you and teach you, someone who is unselfish and caring.
2006-06-08 17:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The phrase "do his business" sort of says it all. It sounds like neither of you are taking responsibility for your pleasure and you see it as a chore. It seems like you've both just accepted that you won't enjoy it.
If you want to have pleasurable, bonding sex, you first have to figure out what works for you and then communicate it to him.
Push him away from the computer some time and visit www.drruth.com she has tons of advice for building communication and discovering what does it for you.
2006-06-08 18:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by Rene B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get rid of the computer. It sounds like that machine is more important than you if he refuses to come to bed then get rid of him.Joking! A marriage doesn't make it if one sided. Maybe you should both get counseling that is always a big help. And don't be hesitant about expressing your desires and needs to him.
2006-06-09 03:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by christian_k1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys need to learn together and he needs to also consider you some more...but some magazines like Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Red book...have some good articles that you both can try out to get things going smoother. Good Luck!
2006-06-08 17:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by brezzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smash the computer
2006-06-08 18:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa, um...try foreplay or try reading a few books on spicing things up in bed. I'm sure you'll find the "right" way to do it.
2006-06-08 17:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by SqueakyZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your first and only? If so you have to find out together what you like and don't like.
2006-06-08 17:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by bfarrar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like to be on top and kinda just dance i guess roll your hips it feels great!! for you and him!!! or standing up he has more control and he can go faster!!
2006-06-08 17:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by Stephy!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most impotant thing is to talk to him about how you feel about this.
2006-06-08 19:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by mommy2mymonkeys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋